Ideas on why some of us are single

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Ideas on why some of us are single
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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 5:55am
This idea may be far fetched but I think there is some great truth to this. I've been doing a lot of thinking and soul-searching lately and I'm beginning to realize that I'm enjoying taking care of myself for once instead of having to worry about taking care of a boyfriend who has issues and putting everyone else above me and myself last. I think just recently I've put myself first and I feel great about doing that and I'm enjoying being single and "selfish" in a good way. I think that some of us are still single because we still have some unfinished business in our lives and it's not our time yet and we aren't setting out the energy that we are really available and really want a relationship. I guess what I'm realizing recently is that I'm not available for a relationship quite yet because I want to take care of me for a little bit longer and have fun and do the things I love to do. I don't really have the time or energy at this point in time for one. I keep trying to fight it because I want to have children and I'm looking at the whole biological clock thing but not really listening to myself and my inner wants. Since we were talking about luck having a lot to do with finding the right one I also was thinking timing and our "readiness" has a great deal to do with it too. I think we also need to ask ourselves if we have some unfinished business to take care of before we get into a relationship and what that is and maybe just maybe once we take care of the things we need to then that right person will come our way.

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Mon, 06-12-2006 - 5:10pm
is there anything wrong with not wanting to date?or have a boyfriend?or go out and have a one night stand?I like being single...not doing anything...not worrying about anything...not being hurt,nothing...i love it...some people think I am strange...but seriously,what can I do?i had bad luck,and men only care about sex and prefer the slutty and ditzy ones.from what I see anyway.Here and there maybe i will have a fling..but I do not want a rleationship or husband ,NOTHIN.And i have been much happier since I dumped the jerk ex last year

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