If a man offers to lend me books, doe...

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Registered: 01-20-2005
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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 5:58am

If a man offers to lend me books, does he like me? Note: he's my former teacher



  • Yes!
  • No!
  • Too hard to tell.


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Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 2:34pm
If you're as inexperienced as you say, then let me just make a couple suggestions- number one, don't put a lot of pressure on yourself. Do what interests you and makes you feel good and think about getting a date out of it as secondary. If you are interested in having long talks in a school building about literature then by all means, do that. If you begin to find yourself only going there because you'll see this person, then it's time to reevaluate.
Second, I'd just remind you to take everything you read as it is. Unless it's directed just to you, a magazine article is going to address the general audience it hopes to attract. So, of course, read everything you'd like but realize it doesn't have to be a template for life.
And number three, try to remind yourself that you have a say in the direction of things. Though I agree that women generally shouldn't ask men out, you can always let-on that you're interested. You can say something like "that's interesting, we should find a time to discuss that further." That alone is more than enough bait for an interested guy. If he doesn't take it then there's a reason and you should move on. If you just can't get your mind off this guy, find another library or school building to hang out in and pursue other interests. Don't be afraid to get out into the world just because you haven't dated everyone in it.
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Registered: 10-27-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 5:13pm
WHOA WHOA WHOA! I never implied you are a loser!!!! never having a boyfriend does NOT make you a loser...you might be better off at times anyway....look,the guy asked a question..does not mean he wants you in that way..so let it go..and he was out of your league no??But it IS true men go after women they want...BUT it does NOT mean we always want them!
yes a less experienced has to be more careful...I am not gonna beat around the bush,guys are always after sex,no matter what they say,they will always tell you "no I am not like that"
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Registered: 10-27-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 5:15pm
If a guy flirts and never asks you out,are you going to wait around and wonder forever?not worth it.
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 10:58pm

I was also going to add:

Student/former teacher relationships happen all the time. So this isn't an excuse. My BF's friend is an instructor who is engaged to one of his former students. They're about the same age and didn't get together until after she had left his class for a few semesters.

And no one here said the word "loser" except you. Why are you looking for rejection?

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