If your single are you waiting for ma...

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Registered: 11-21-2004
If your single are you waiting for ma...
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Sun, 11-27-2005 - 2:58pm

If your single are you waiting for marriage to have sex?



  • yes.
  • no.


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Registered: 07-21-2004
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 12:59pm
I've never been married, I'm 27, and I had sex for the first time when I was 20, so no, definitely not waiting for marriage.
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Registered: 11-21-2004
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 5:07pm
It's hard getting a boyfriend when every one knows that I'm saving myself for marriage.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 7:08pm

I don't like that term "saving yourself."

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Registered: 02-05-2005
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 4:28pm

Im 37, divorced. Just left a 5 year live-with-partner relationship. I can't imagine saving myself for marriage again. Besides...i never saved myself for marriage to begin with. I was 19 when i lost my virginity to a guy who was my fiance. 2 years later i broke off the engagement. That did not stop me from having sex.

Cudo's to the girls who do still save themselves for marriage. You all have more will power than i ever did in my teens and twenty-somethings.

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Wed, 11-30-2005 - 2:22am
sex is a normal thing and part of a good marriage....but why wait that long to do it the first time?you can`t expect a guy to wait...
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Registered: 11-21-2004
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 1:04am
I'm not sure what you mean.
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Registered: 10-27-2005
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 1:36am
if you are saving yourself for marriage,then YES it is going to be very hard if not impossible to get a boyfriend...guys don`t want to wait...do what you want but maybe you should consider having sex soemtime and not waiting for marriage??Men ar not going to wait I am sorry but that is why men ask women out on DATES...hoping to get some after few dates and what not...sex is more important to a guy than anything else...
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Registered: 11-21-2004
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 4:31pm
My boyfriend joined the army a few months ago. He came back on leave and imediately wanted sex. I reminded him that we both took virginity pledges. He didn't care and found another girl to take out. Of course hes no longer my boyfriend. I think the army messed him up and destroyed his Christian values.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 4:45pm

"Men ar not going to wait I am sorry but that is why men ask women out on DATES...hoping to get some after few dates and what not...sex is more important to a guy than anything else..."

Hmm. Dangerous statement there. I think that sex is important to men in general (and women - it is for me), but sex is not all there is. Many men do see the value of companionship, marriage, kids, friendship, etc. I don't think it's fair to classify men as a bunch of sex addicts. There are some after only one thing, but not all of them.

I think sex is a very important part of a good relationship, but that doesn't mean you have to dive right into that aspect of a relationship. It can wait if you're not ready.

Heather -- it will depend on the maturity level, values and upbringing of each particular man. I haven't waited for marriage, but it is a very personal choice. Don't let anyone tell you to do it "just to get it over with" or to "get a boyfriend" in the meantime. Do it when you know you're ready.

I have a dear friend who is now happily married for almost 5 years. While they were dating, her husband waited two years until she was ready to have sex with him. He loved and respected her and was willing to wait. Proof that not all guys will bail.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 11-21-2004
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 5:55pm
I shouldn't let such matters upset me so much. I am still waiting for marriage.
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