If your single are you waiting for ma...

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Registered: 11-21-2004
If your single are you waiting for ma...
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Sun, 11-27-2005 - 2:58pm

If your single are you waiting for marriage to have sex?



  • yes.
  • no.


You will not be able to change your vote.


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Registered: 10-27-2005
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 10:04pm
the army had nothing to do with it..he wanted sex..you didn`t..I don`t think he is a bad person...expecting a man to wait until you want to get married is asking for too much.
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Registered: 10-27-2005
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 10:08pm
I am not one to go against one`s beliefs..but I find it hard to believe the guy waited ..I would think he probably got it somewhere else in the meantime...we don`t have gold between our legs .....now I am never one to jump into bed with any guy,but I would not tease a guy either,or tell him no sex unless you marry me..but good luck to the women who are not gonna put out until there are rings on their fingers ..like a trap and the men are the bait...what if you don`t find a perfect guy to marry?are you going to stay a virgin forever??you cna wait until marriage,then get divorced just as well....women who don`t save it for marriage are not whores ya know?
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Registered: 11-21-2004
Sat, 12-31-2005 - 10:18pm
What is this world coming to? I just don't understand.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 01-01-2006 - 5:32pm
Don't worry about what other people say. Did you know that 1 in 4 people under 25 has a sexually transmitted disease? You are smart not to sleep around. We are human beings, not cocker spaniels and I think our sex lives should reflect that. You may or may not ever get married - there are so many factors involved - and there is certainly no guarantee that sleeping around will land you a husband or even a boyfriend. So just keep doing what you know is right and you won't have to look back with regret. Iri
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Sun, 01-01-2006 - 7:13pm

I'm sorry but I think Lostprophet is giving bad advice and I wouldn't listen to him.

There are guys out there willing to wait for the right lady. My ex and I had a sexual relationship for 8 years, until he found Christianity. He then stopped having sex with me and when we broke up only weeks later (for totally different reasons), he then met another like-minded Christian woman, waited to have sex and married her a year later (much to my chagrin).

Even though I choose not to wait, I still think it is an honorable thing to hold out for a true love. My best suggestion to you is to try a Christian dating site so you can connect with men that feel the same.

Good luck!

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Registered: 12-23-2005
Sun, 01-01-2006 - 10:11pm
L0st prophet is a guy? That explains a lot.
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Registered: 10-27-2005
Mon, 01-02-2006 - 12:49am
LOL..lost prophet is a SURPRISE woman..and what really cracks me up is how all the women on the boards all go on "oh not all men are like this and that"then you assume I am a male because because I like ot have sex once in awhile like most normal do?geez...I don`t sleep around either thank you very much..as for Heather,quit bashing me and going on how saving it for marriage is the best thing to do...best thing for who exactly?for you to do polls on getting dumped and what not because you are not interested in having sex???I wouldn`t talk or bash others.Going by your polls men are not having much fun with you anyway
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Registered: 12-23-2005
Mon, 01-02-2006 - 1:16am

THank you for the clarification. I thought you were a woman from your earlier posts, but then figured maybe the last poster knew something I didn't. I personally don't care what you do or don't do in your personal life but I find it offensive that you continually harp on this whole notion that men only care about sex. I have met many men in my life and not all of them were interested in getting into my pants. Of course there are players out there and that is their sole purpose but there are also a lot of men who are not like that. There are men who are also willing to wait until they get married to have sex.

Heather, you need to get involved in church groups. I live in upstate NY and there are singles groups specifically for Christians. Look into what is offered in your area. I'm sure there must be something. This is obviously an important issue for you and I don't think you should compromise. Surround yourself with people who feel as you do and you will find someone. Good luck.

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Mon, 01-02-2006 - 11:09am
thank you for being little more tolerant and understanding about how the one poster is irritating me..i find it aggrivating when certain women say one thing...then another...some say men don`t just care about sex,yet when one asks for advice on the boards about a guy she likes,they tell her basically the guy might just be interested in sex and nothing more...like everyone jumps around here...and I really don`t care that people make everyone who is NOT a virgin waiting until marriage out to be sex machines.....hate to say it but if she was so perfect she would NOT be posting here at all or doing polls to get opinions on her issues,then get upset because she don`t like the anwers...please do NOT jump on me for this....BUT MOST MEN WILL NOT WAIT OR RESPECT.I have been dropped ALOT for not putting out,which is why I am NOT dating...to avoid situations.How many dates can you go out on and feel like crap..forget it...No not all men do this..but TOO MANY DO.
yes she needs to become a nun at this point..ever other day is a poll and she gets too upset..I just tell it like it is,many men won`t want to be bothered..it is life..do I cry over guys who want to do me on first date?no way because if it is all they care about then they do nothing for me.If NOT having sex bothers someone,then they should go out and do it already...just to be disappointed if the pressure is to much for them..otherwise quit labeling or doing polls ..i was never pregnant and I don`t have any diseases and i don`t use sex to get men...how many men run to you with your beliefs?so your tactic is not working either,so don`t judge ME
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Registered: 01-09-2004
Mon, 01-02-2006 - 11:22am

Heather,

Like it or not, this poll gives an accurate accounting of the acceptance of premarital sex in today's mainstream society. Most dating relationships eventually involve sex as couples move on to greater levels of intimacy. However, I believe that you should not do anything, including anything sexual, that you believe to be wrong. Find a conservative church for a dating pool.