I'm clueless, please help!

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Registered: 01-22-2006
I'm clueless, please help!
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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 9:33pm
First of all, let me just tell you girls that I'm a little clueless when it comes to guys. I've had one long term relationship in the past 5 years and nothing at all in the past 2 years. So, i need a little help with the guy thing.
Anyway, i went to my 10 yr school reunion a few weeks back and started chatting to this guy i went to high school with. A few days later, he called me and we spoke for about 2 hrs (by the way, i didn'y give him my number and there was no talk of us catching up again, so he found it and called me without invitation.) There has been a series of very flirtatious sms messages and we have had contact everyday. We've been out as a group a few times where he continues to be flirtatious and seems very interested. Last night, we went out by ourselves for the first time and it was way diferent. Not much flirtation, awkward silences and just a different vibe. I sent him a msg last night which he hasn't repsonded to so i am confused at what is going on?
I know he, like me is also totally clueless so has he got no feeling for me? Is he scared? What do you all think?
I'd love some advice and i know i sound like a teenager, but i am very, very confused.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 12:29am

Bottom line is that unless he asks you out and actually dates you then no matter what he sms or otherwise, it's all play (not to say it's not play with dating either...).

He MAY be scare or something else but that that does not matter what is inside his head for it is his actions or inactions that you need to go on. Right now the inaction is that he has not asked you out or take "the next step" for it's all words. Talk is cheap.

Mark