I'm DONE!

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Registered: 02-26-2007
I'm DONE!
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Tue, 04-17-2007 - 11:10pm

I'm done with it all!

I'm tired of "love" "lust" and all those other crap ideas.

I never want to fall in love again, I don't want to even like someone. I've tried casual sex but it leaves me feeling more empty than before, so I'm not going to engage in it any more.

What do we need men for? Sure, life is lonely, but they make more problems than what they are worth.

So, that's it. I'm a cynical 23 year old and I don't want to ever care for another man again.

No question, sorry, just needed to get that off my chest. You know, loniness... you can't vent to anyone else.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 5:56pm

Yah no kidding. I just wish I could find a guy who would give me one 'date' night a week, the odd phone call (of course regular sex) and then otherwise we did our own thing. Man what a perfect life that would be!

I've been on a self-imposed one year hiatus now from dating. I'm tempted to try again but it's iffy. One day I want to, the next I don't. I just worry if I wait too long, all the 'good guys' will be gone. Or at least that's what some people tell me.

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Registered: 05-19-2005
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 6:15pm

We've all had those moments :) sometimes taking a break from dating is a good idea, but don't give up hope! He's out there, you simply haven't crossed paths yet.

At any rate, enjoy your singlehood. IMO, it's highly underrated and has some nifty perks too. :)

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Registered: 07-31-2006
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 6:42pm
Very true. I could definitely do just fine with seeing the guy once or twice a week with maybe one or two phone calls when we don't see each other. I'm just too busy to spend every single day with him, and if I did, I would feel completely smothered by it. I think it's so difficult to find a guy who knows how to give me my space without him being unhappy!!
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 12:01am

"What do we need men for? Sure, life is lonely, but they make more problems than what they are worth.


So, that's it. I'm a cynical 23 year old and I don't want to ever care for another man again."


You sound like me. When someone would ask me, "Why aren't you seeing anyone?" my standard line was, "the more men I meet, the more I appreciate Duracell." This answer would usually pop up because I got tired of the question and the implication that I was less of a person because I was single & unattached.


I have a boyfriend. I'm STILL cynical.

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Registered: 04-18-2007
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 9:35am
I've been having the same view as you too!!!! I'm soo sick of going through heartbreak so now I enjoy reading what others have to say about it as well. Oh and I'm not sure if this will help or not but I bought all 6 seasons of Sex and the City. I suggest you borrow a friend's DVD and watch it just in case you don't really like it. Oh and Season 1 is kinda slow. But I'm telling you, you will definately relate to a character on the show. It just makes me feel better when I watch it!!! Hope you like it.
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Registered: 02-26-2007
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 9:58pm

Sex and the City is the bomb! Try also renting Dirty Love with jenny McCarthy. I found that movie to be SO funny and helpful!

But with regards to the casual sex thing, I may be young, but I have been around the block (not that I'm proud to say). I've had plenty of casual sex because I started young. I went looking for companionship and attention in all the wrong places. I eventually developed into myself and there was a period where I would have casual sex for the sake of sex itself. I never felt like more of a guy. I was fully capable of engaging in a physical encounter without so much as a glimmer of emotion. In fact, it frightened the men I slept with as I was so "cold" But that was okay. I look back on that attitude with envy.

I think because I've recently broken up with a long term relationship gone bad that I'm craving the companionship and affection that I had for so long. I've tried casual sex but maybe I'm not ready. it didnt make me feel very good.

I guess that everyone is different and is in different places.

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Fri, 04-20-2007 - 12:53am
Girl, you have no idea how right you are! Charlotte, Miranda, Carrie and Sam were my best friends, well, sort of, for years! I saw a little bit of myself in ALL of them. I miss those girls! I can't wait until the movie starts shooting. I just hope they don't mess up an already great story line. If they break up Big and Carrie, I'm walking out.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 11:04am

Even that limited amount of time and effort seems to be too much commitment or something for most guys...or at least the ones I've been meeting lately. I've been trying to find someone who is at least willing to have regular dates, 1-2 times a week, without necessarily wanting to move towards a serious LTR, and you'd think I was asking for the moon or something! My gay best friend (male) thinks that it's because in many guys' minds, it's either totally NSA or it's a committed relationship, there are no shades of gray in between. Which of course is ridiculous but I do honestly think that once you start asking for any sort of regularity and reliability, they start thinking you want to get married or something.

Very frustrating.

Sheri

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