Im getting tired of being alone

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Registered: 11-09-2003
Im getting tired of being alone
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Wed, 09-28-2005 - 6:07pm

Im 34 yrs old never ever dated in my life and also never ever had a boyfriend. I think Im a friendly, easy going, laid back girl, people have told me and also people have told me Im a very good looking girl and they get surprise how come I don’t have a guy in my life or at least dating someone or how come I have never had a boyfriend before, if Im a nice girl. It is not that I want to get marry now, Im not thinking in marriage anytime soon, but what Im getting tired of is of not be able to date someone I can go out with, dance, movies, shopping, or even go to a mall. I envy of those couples I see on malls, movies, they hang out together, and etc is nice to have a guy that you both feel comfortable with or experience at least what it is like to have a boyfriend, that is what I want and that has never ever happened to me before and at my age, I think it is more difficult to find single guys.
I mean I don’t even have a circle of male friends to hang out with, I don’t have male friends. The guys I have met in my life are guys from workplaces, but that is it. I haven’t met guys in other places. Those guys from workplaces were just coworkers, I mean I never find any attractive guy or interesting guy that I might be interested at in any workplace I have worked before but the coworkers never pay attention to me either. I mean single guys available. At my age many guys are married, divorced or divorced with children. And the guys that tell me im a attractive interested woman are married, so no way Jose!! Few ones are single and available

I mean it seems guys are not interested enough in me to ask me out. Let me be clear, men are not interested enough to ask me out and get to know me for my inside, what they want for me is to get laid, some directly and very forward have told me that, because Im very attractive lady. The ones that have told me that are guys I met over chat rooms after 3 or 4 messages, they want us to meet but for those reasons, so even thought I have met guys online on chat rooms, they want me for other things and Im not into that mostly to a complete stranger. So if im not asked out how I can date a guy. That has never happened. I don’t want to grow old and never experience at least what it is like to have a boyfriend for the most of it.

Even if I don’t get married ever at least I want to date someone in my 34 yrs old of age that has never ever happened. So why if Im so likable, according to people I have met or known that has never ever happened. I have never made out with a guy before, ever. Im still a virgin. I mean I don’t want to find a boyfriend to sleep with him, that is not my intention and I wont sleep with anyone either, my interest here is I would like to experience what it feels to date a guy and Im already 34 yrs and never experienced that. What is wrong with me? Like I said Im not getting married anytime soon, just to experience what is like to date.

I think im rare specie. I don’t believe there are other ladies just like me in this world.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Fri, 10-07-2005 - 12:13am

I have done online dating and found it to be a great way to meet people. Call me crazy, but even if a guy is just looking for sex, isn't it really up to the girl in the long end to make that call?? Trust me when I say this, if you meet a guy and all he wants is sex, then you're gonna know it pretty quickly. Either they won't call you back when they realize you're not going to be an easy f&*% OR They'll push too quickly to get intimate. They're not going to waste time on a woman if they know she won't give in. THESE MEN ARE EVERYWHERE - NOT JUST ONLINE. My experience is that the majority of men online and offline(so to speak) are genuine. As a woman, you get to call the shots as far as how the relationship goes with reard to sex. I think with your lack of dating experience, this would be an excellant way to get some dating under your belt. The best thing about online dating, is you get to know them on some level before you actually meet them, which is very nice. Will you meet the love of your life? Who knows. But it could get you used to dating and more confident with men in general. You are still young, so take advantage of it and go find that man you want. Just do it. Stop wasting more of your precious time.

As for the previous posting, I feel that online dating is a completely different experience in the US. Please don't let another country's culture stop you from doing something completely acceptable AND trendy in the US. Best regards!!!!!

KCole

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