I'm a guy, need some womens' opinions

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Registered: 05-17-2008
I'm a guy, need some womens' opinions
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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 12:40pm


Figured if you wanted a woman's candid opinion, might as well ask a women's site.

Just wondering, what's a woman's view on a guy flying solo at the bar/club? Are you creeped out? (would you eject immediately if I came and asked your opinion on flannel?)

Let me explain. I'm a guy thats lost a couple good wingmen. My best friends from high school moved out of state, and my two best buds from college are now in California. My snowboarding buddy has this new girlfriend that thinks I'm a bad influence, and is relentlessly whipping him into shape.

So here I am thinking, "man it'd be nice just to chill out and have a beer with the boys or a cute girl", but with all my wings gone, I'm too self conscious to go it alone and chill.

So an honest opinion would help here. What do you think of a guy flying solo? Just be honest, its an internet post, you're not going to hurt my feelings (I think my lady friends are too worried about me to tell me what they really think).

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Registered: 07-13-2007
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 1:24pm

First, I am a man, and I am sure the girls will pipe in behind me. However it just seemed an odd question. Isn't measuring your value by the size of your entourage kind of like measuring it by the size of your wanker, or the size of your wallet? If you cant say yours is bigger than his

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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 5:01pm

I think that as long as you're not creepy and you don't stay in one place all night, no one will notice.

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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 6:17pm

On the basis of being out alone I doubt any woman worth her salt would be turned off.

 

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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 6:21pm

My two cents: I probably wouldn't think much of it as I go into a bar by myself once in a while to have a beer and just watch the game or people-watch.

I think it would depend on your demeanor. If you just sit there and stare at everyone, or a girl you find attractive, then, yeah - you're going to look somewhat creepy. On the other hand, if you're just hanging out, making chit-chat with the other folks who are there, then no, I would just think that you stopped in to have a beer and make chit-chat and nothing more. No big deal.

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Registered: 11-07-2006
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 11:36pm
I wouldn't think that much of a guy at a bar alone actually. Lots of guys do that if they're in town on business, new to the area, or just want to clear their head. This may sound odd, but I'd probably be more willing to talk with a guy that was alone than one who was with a group. When I see a group of guys its more apparent they're talking about the ladies in a way that I probably would find crass and obscene. A solo guy isn't talking to anyone (unless he hears voices in his head) and would be more approachable in my opinion. I say go for it, just no cheesy lines.
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Sun, 05-18-2008 - 3:44pm

I say go for it, just no cheesy lines.


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You mean you don't go week in the knees for BS? LoL I like to "meet" people. I just had

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Mon, 05-19-2008 - 9:39pm
I agree with carly. I would be more apt to talk to a guy who was alone then one who was with a whole huge group of friends. This is just me, but i find it refreshing when a guy has confidence to go out alone. Shows that he is comfortable being alone. As long as you are not creepily staring at every girl, i think it's cute :)
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Tue, 05-20-2008 - 12:05pm

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Tue, 05-20-2008 - 1:07pm
As a woman who thinks the eerily staring man, standing alone in a corner is creepy, I'd have to say...no. If you are acting normal, I don't see a problem. Besides, losing friends is a normal occurrence in life. It's not your fault that you'd suddenly solo. You should be able to enjoy yourself, with or without an entourage.
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Tue, 05-20-2008 - 2:14pm

Can I ask what kind of stuff your friend was saying to the guy in the big talk?


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Hmm . . . context?

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