I'm really ticked off

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I'm really ticked off
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 7:21pm

Graduation is Friday.

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 8:22pm
You have a right to be really ticked off! I have been without a "significant other" for 6 years now and this kind of thing happens to me as well. Most of my friends who are women are married or living with a guy so I have learned to not make plans with them as they usually end up backing out. It sucks, but also, sometimes it's really great to be able to do what I want without having to consult someone all the time.....anyway, try to turn it into a positive...Take a good book or some magazines with you so the time you spend in your hotel room will be fun...also, sometimes, when I go away for a few days with friends and I have my own room, I take my exercise clothes and go for a workout or a run. Try to have a good time.
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:04pm

I am planning on trying to make the best of it.

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:41pm

Oh, Shy, I'm sorry to hear that. We'll be with you in spirit!!!

I hope that your friend at LEAST is still going to pay her half of the room that she committed to!

Sheri

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 11:35pm

Im sorry Shy! That is really really awful for people bailing out on you. Enjoy your day anyway, its a big accomplishment!!

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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 12:17am

I agree with you on your statement on people's integrity. I do not count on anyone when they say they are going to make it to fill-in-the-blank. When it's one-on-one then I do count on my friends to show up on time (more or less). When it is a group party like you are having then I don't expect people to RSVP much less show up. I don't think this is related to whether or not if you are single. I believe people act that way regardless the event is for a couple or a couples thing.

Most of my friends do do what they say and say what they do for the most part, otherwise they would not be my friends. My brothers have high integrity for that was how we were all raised. I can count on them.

All in all I think that sucks for you Shy.

HUGS
Mark

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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 12:52am

shywon,
I really respect a lot of the things you post, so please don't take this wrong...,

..., but why is everything about you??????? Maybe there are some nuances to the situation that are oblivious to you???

Really I think this reflects perfectly the difference between men and women: I have been in a similar situation but with a married buddy that failed to show. The money never was and issue..., the fact he had to back out was not an issue..,

He called, said he couldn't make it..., and I said "no problemo..., we'll catch up later dude"..., and then called an escort in and had a hell of a night gambling and chasin' her tail around!!!!

It's not about you..., it's about what you make of the situation. I once read a book of writings from young soldiers in the Vietnam war..., in limbo between life and death one young lad wrote "you learn to make do..., you're thrown into chaos..., into a daily fight with life and death and you learn to make do..., or you die".

I live everyday like that..., I work through every relationship like that..., I make do.

I don't think enough people now-a-days "makes do"!!!

Adrastos

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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 7:54am

That just means you've come to accept flakiness in your friends.

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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 3:19pm
I agree with you on this. It's one thing to give fair warning or pay for your half of the deal and apologize if you can't give fair warning, but it's another to flake last minute and leave the other person hanging. Things like this really bother me too. I try my best not to do this to others and if I need to cancel for any reason, I give fair warning and my apologies. Sorry you had to go through this. I don't think it's about being male or female. I think either sex would be bothered by something like this. Others don't get bothered because they might do the same thing to a friend of theirs too.
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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 5:28pm

Don't get me started on the integrity thing, this post will go on for days! I just hope that you are able to make the best of it. Is it possible that you will find another singleton, in the graduating class, to pal around with? I'll bet you end up having a fantastic time!

As for Astrid, Arbuckle, Arbitrary, or whatever the heck his handle was ...

"He called, said he couldn't make it..., and I said "no problemo..., we'll catch up later dude"..., and then called an escort in and had a hell of a night gambling and chasin' her tail around!!!!"

--- OH PULEEZ!?!?!? I definitely could have lived without that visual.

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Fri, 12-08-2006 - 12:30pm
Good luck with everything tonight! I hope you have fun! Congratulations!


Edited 12/8/2006 12:38 pm ET by bbw_26

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