I'm a thief today

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I'm a thief today
Wed, 04-16-2003 - 6:50pm
I saw this on another board, and I thought it would go great here.

http://attraction.match.com/main.aspx?trackingid=514178&bannerid=536316&id=6aa6c859-dcdc-412d-8096-7a2c06d7fa24

I took the test, and it seems accurate at times, sometimes maybe not so much. However, it gave some good insight! There were also graphics, but they didn't copy here.

Here are my results:

WHO YOU ARE

You're a rising star

You're a strong, sensible, and quiet person. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Life should be "balanced" with plenty of time to relax, think, and have fun! You have a shy and reserved exterior that can make deep connections with others a challenge. You're not someone who "wears her heart on her sleeve" so those close to you don't always know how you feel. However, a lot of the important things about you have been saved for someone who's willing to invest spending time one-on-one to get to know you.

How unique is your type?

Your personality profile is similar to a number of women your age. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken the test, about 33.5% (or 1 in 3 women) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.



What's dating all about to you?

Finding a loving relationship is a mission for you. You have clear goals and even a timeline in mind. Falling in love is an especially magical experience. You're suddenly free from the rules and thinking that guide your life. You usually keep your feelings and life under control. But remember, the bigger the dam, the bigger the flood when it breaks!

You face two major challenges in finding the love of your life. First, because you're shy, you feel like you have to be someone else or "wear a mask" to go out and meet new people. You're left feeling like a distant observer, and men can find it hard to truly understand you. Second, although having a vision of what you want can be helpful, the risk is that your high standards and rush to find the perfect man can get in the way of loving a real-life imperfect man.


Quirks men notice

Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Because you're a private person, it's especially important that you find a partner who understands.

Some days when you're in a bad mood and can't hide it, co-workers or friends take it personally and think you're upset at them.

On most days, you need to get away from other people (including your loved ones) and have quiet time alone to rest and recharge your emotional and social batteries.

Do men like your type?

Notice that 35% of men are generally attracted to your personality type. 6% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.

WHO YOU'RE LOOKING FOR

He'll be an enigma

You're looking for a very balanced man. He'll have clear goals in life without being a dreamer. You'll both enjoy going out with friends but also love spending quiet times together. He'll manage to balance an objective and rational side with a very compassionate and caring side. On top of that, he'll be a fun and free spirit but still do what he promises and show up on time. Sound too good to be true? Men who are truly balanced like this are rare, but they do exist and would be an excellent fit for you.

Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:

No strong similarities were detected, which suggests that you may be more attracted to certain "opposite qualities." Please read the next sections to see if you may be seeking someone with different or opposite qualities to balance your own habits and style.

Number of men your type

Men with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken this test, only 6% (or 1 in 17 men) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.

However, there's a larger group, 25% (or 1 in 4 men), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.

About two-thirds (69%) of the men have at least some of the traits you find attractive.

But you'd have a negative reaction to 31% (or 1 in 3 men), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.

Opposites sometimes attract

You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. Still, sometimes differences can help create a "spark" and excitement about each other. Part of you wants to be more like him, or at least have his unique style in your life. He could be good for you in many ways:

His happy and optimistic nature will brighten up your mood and outlook on life.


Quirks you can tolerate

The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a man who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" man:

You described a pretty balanced person as most attractive to you, so no strong quirks were noted. Watch out for quirks during dating, since they may indicate a strong quality that is hidden at first.

Downside of your "ideal"

In addition to his quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, his quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:

Because he has a very positive take on life, he's probably not the best shoulder to cry on. At times his cheerfulness may seem fake or shallow and make it hard to connect with him.

Deal breakers

You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you're looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:

Your responses suggest that you are pretty accepting and tolerant of shortcomings. No major personality "deal breakers" or reasons to rule out potential dates were identified.

Trade-offs you'll face

Good Qualities Challenging Qualities

Tries to balance spending time with a few close friends and going out with a big group of friends. Given the demands of family, friends, and activities, it's hard to find time alone together.

Tries to balance a creative and imaginative side, with "real world" pragmatics about what you can and cannot do. Promising ideas are often dropped if they don't succeed right away.

Tries to balance an objective view of problems with compassion for the people and feelings involved. Competing drives from your rational vs. compassionate points of view can stand in the way of making decisions.

Tries to be decisive, but still not rush into anything. How much attention is given to problems and how decisions get made seems unpredictable.

SEX

Romantic sex

Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways you connect with your partner. To you, life is about finding balance, and a romantic and satisfying sex life is a key part of your vision.

Among women your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 8 women (13%).

Is he sexually compatible?

You're looking for someone just like you, who values the quality of sex over the quantity. You want someone who would never pressure you about sex.

What's ahead for you sexually?

A good sexual match plays a key role in your "ideal" relationship. Your only risk is to have sex get too comfortable; too predictable. Since you're naturally calm and rational during fights, you miss out on great "make-up" sex! If you can bring your natural creativity and imagination to the bedroom, your sex life will never be boring.