I'm tired of people assuming...

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Registered: 09-17-2004
I'm tired of people assuming...
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 2:16pm

A guy friend of my best friend asked her if I was STILL single ( I have been single for 2 years now), emphasis on "still". He just can't believe it. I am soo tired of people assuming that if you are halfway attractive, and don't have somebody, that there is something wrong with you! As if everyone that is in a relationship is perfect! I mean it when I tell people I simply haven't found the right one yet..so that got me to thinking of all the other stuff that I am tired of people assuming about to single people...

1. I am tired of people assuming that if you're single, you are out having s*x with a lot of different people

2. I am tired of people assuming that if you are single, and someone shows interest in you that you are not interested in, you should "stop being so picky".

3. I am tired of women who are married/in a relationship assuming that if you are single, you are automatically after their Husbands/SO's.

LOL, give me a break! So I want to hear, what are you guys tired of people assuming about your single status?

Leeya

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 4:50pm
Okay leeya, I tried to reply to your post but kept having to edit it b/c it was so freegin' long and negative! Let me just say that I agree with you, people assume way too much ; )
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 5:11pm

I hear ya on all of those, and want to add..


-People assume my life is SOOOO exciting because I'm single. Truth is, I'm home much more than my married/mother friends.


-People assume I have tons of money to spare.


-People assume I have less to do and can take on so much more. Stress is stress is stress...no matter how you see it!


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Registered: 01-15-2004
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 9:46pm

I totally agree! also:

- I am tired of people thinking that just because I'm single, I'm desperate and would go out with any guy that looks my way.

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 11:23pm

Well... mostly I get tired of people assuming that I'm not in a relationship because I'm bitter about my divorce. It was 3 1/2 freakin' years ago! I don't even care, anymore. Been there-done that-had the therapy. Move on.

And, there are people who assume that I'm worried about having kids, that my biological clock is ticking. NOT EVEN.

Besides that, most of what people assume is true! They assume I'm free-wheeling, and do what I want. They assume that I enjoy living alone. They assume I travel for fun. They assume I have many friends and activities. It's all true, and I talk about it all with such joy... they KNOW that I'm loving being single.

Mostly, people seem to envy my world. Except those that are into kids... they can't understand how I can NOT have children. Heck, I have a dog!

Barb

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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 11:58pm

I forgot one....


A few months ago, I happened upon a discussion where two friends were talking about someone who teaches in my district.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 4:41am

I'm tired of people assuming...

- I have plenty of money
- I have plenty of time (That is flexible)
- I have no life
- That nobody wants me

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Registered: 09-17-2004
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 8:56am
YES!!! That happened to a coworker of mine! she is in her forties, and she never married out of a PERSONAL choice. She went to her HS reunion, and one of her classmates just boldy asked her where her "partner" was, COMPLETELY assuming she was gay! And they assumed that about the redhead woman ( y' know, ex Melrose place) on desparate housewives, and everyone thinks poor Halle Berry is Crazy! I tell ya...Societal pressure SUCKS! I even had a guy get mad at me once becuase I wasn't very attracted to him,and it showed, and he said, " Well you're the one who's biological clock is ticking, not mine!!" I was only 24...
Leeya
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 10:37am
Tired of people assuming:
I am miserable and lonely because Im single (some single people are, but certainly not all of them)
I am envious of them because they are married/cohabitating (when I hear so many people's tales of horror about being married I can hardly be envious of them!)
If I am angry/upset about something, it's really about me not "getting any". (single people, like all other people, have legitimate reasons for getting angry or upset)
Iri
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Registered: 10-01-2004
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 11:14am

Luckily I don't get too much slack for being single except when the holidays roll around and I'm bombarded with questions from relatives as to why I am single and the non-stop chatter of what cousin or other relative is now engaged. I am the oldest of the children in my family so I think it's expected I will find somebody soon and marry off when in reality I will probably be the last :-)

Some people see being in a relationship or married as some kind of accomplishment when in reality anyone can be married or date if they just wanted to for the sake of doing so, it definitely doesn't mean they are better people. Of course there are times when I miss being in a relationship but overall I'm content with my life and working on some personal goals of mine and I'm definitely not going to settle for anybody just to have a non-single status.

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Registered: 04-06-2005
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 5:21pm
One thing that frustrates me about being single is people trying to set you up on blind dates. They assume that you're miserable and will go out with just anybody. I HATE that!

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