IMPOSTERS!
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| Tue, 03-21-2006 - 12:21pm |
I was reading many of the posts about our ex's. About how we miss certain things that went along with the relationship like hugs and soft kisses and just knowing someone was there for us, or so we thought. I know exactly what you all are saying. My first relationship after my hubby passed was on a rebound. And the worse kind. I wasn't separated or divorced I was WIDOWED!! I mean imagine trying to fill such a void with an imposter!
Imposter is exactly what he was. I found him out to be a total liar and deceiver. Getting into trouble with the law, losing jobs and lying about, all kinds of untruths and decepption. I had finally had enough!! How could I expose my daughters and son to this lunacy. To teach my girls that it was ok for their future husbands to be like this and to teach my son that HE should behave this way with his wife one day??!! No way.
But like you all say, initially I missed all of that sappy lovey dovey stuff too but the one thing I've realized is that there are so many things we can do just for ourselves when were single.
Relationships are exhuasting, constant steady tideous work. Look at single life as a break from that. I had gained a lot of unwanted weight in this last relationship so I've used this time to get fit and really and I mean REALLY pamper myself.
I am also lucky enough to have three very active teens who constantly have me running from baseball games to cello concerts to art shows to football and cheer practice to the mall, to get these friends, those friends etc etc etc enough to make your head spin!
Alone time is cherished. If at all possible try doing a make over on your apt or home. I plumb moved out of our home and high tailed it back to my home town (he coaxed me into moving from NJ to DE).
When I got into the new place I did a mini makeover on my bedroom. I did it with a theme of "complete serenity". I picked my fave color (baby blue with accent colors of a sailcloth white). I bargain shopped and found great bedroom furniture at Ikea and did the whole damn makeover with $1000 of my tax return money!
I have a beta fish and tons of candles. I've recently began exploring meditation in my new room. I have beautiful "relaxation" CD's I've burned (mainly consisting of Enya, Enigma, Yanni etc) and I light all of my candles and I focus on my fishy swimming gracefully around and I clear my mind of EVERYTHING.
I am telling you I am metamorphizing into a new woman!! I even wrote myself a poem and it goes like this:
Happiness is like a butterfly-
the more we pursue it, the more it eludes us
But the moment we sit quietly and allow it to rest upon us
it arrives in a peaceful quiet that God created to exist
Diamonds begin dark, rough and unshapened-
They only sparkle because they go under tremendous pressure through the refiners fire and polishing
Life is a journey- - - when orchestrated by God produces the brightest diamonds everyday.
Lord, I want to thank you for shaping me into the refined diamond butterfly you predestined me to be- - -
Unmasked and engaged in promises
In your name I pray, Jesus!
I hope all of us can unmask our beautiful diamond butterflies and realize that we deserve a very special soul mate in our lives and should NEVER compromise ourselves in accepting an imposter!! Lets unmask ourselves to our true loves and unmask these imposters!
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