innocent birhtday party disaster

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Registered: 10-21-2006
innocent birhtday party disaster
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 5:45am

i thought i was going to a birthday party with a friend
small gathering turned into at leat 60 people
littl kids and parents everywhere
i was literally the only person besides the kids themselves that didnt have kids
i dont have a husband
some kid asked me if my daughter was going to beat the pinata
wow
i felt so depressed i began to cry
it really depresses me
that not only can i not have kids
i have also never been on a date
i have never kissed a guy
never been in a relationship
i have wanted a boyfriend for 19 years and 4 months
and i am 31
thats more than half my life

i was watching a lof of should of been me

people my age and younger have kids of their own
one gal had 3 kids and she is 7 years younger than me
then again this was a hiapanic crowd
and they have kids in their late teens

wow to see pregant woman
and know taht will never happen to me
it hurts
it hurts deep down knowing that i will never experience the joys of pregancy

i feel like rites of passages in life refuses to let me in
and i will be damned to still be single at 40
or 50
but i dont want somoene marrying me out of pity

but its very hard for me to be aroound alot of famalies
its why i didnt renew my season pass at disneyland and got a psp instead

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 1:15pm

If you want to date, find a boyfriend, potential husband, what are you doing to achieve that?

<<and they have kids in their late teens>>>

That's so beyond offensive I'm not quite sure how to address it.


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Registered: 07-28-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 2:38pm

<then again this was a hiapanic crowd
and they have kids in their late teens>>

Huh? Do you care to address what you meant by this? This is over the top offensive!




Edited 12/18/2006 2:50 pm ET by ivil_mami25
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Registered: 04-21-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 2:53pm

Are you for real? I have seen you post on here several times with some strange things. Sorry, but I'm really starting to wonder if you are actually telling the truth.

If you are, then hang in there, but I really have my doubts.

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Registered: 10-31-2003
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 8:17pm

Hi everyone,


Please remember that if there are posts or threads that you don't enjoy reading you can simply participate in one of the many other discussions you see here on the board.

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Registered: 12-20-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:50pm

Hi Kat_xk8

Another post and yes, I feel inclined to reply to this one too.

Firstly, one mention... just because you can not give birth does not mean you can not be a mother.

I am not married nor close to being. I too long to be a mother. So, instead of moaning about it... I volunteer at a foster home. I help raise awareness, raise money and do all I can for children who don't have mothers or fathers. Seems quite simple really, I don't have a child and they don't have a mother. I use what I have and I give all I can.

Start to focus on others, instead of internalising every thing.

The world is enormous... we share it with billions of other people.

You have access to a computer, I take it you have a home, a roof over your head and food in your belly. You are one of the lucky ones. Start believing it.

Secondly... on the hispanic comment I leave you with these words...

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
Martin Luther King, Jr.

No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.
Nelson Mandela
Long Walk to Freedom

With kindness and blessings.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 8:55am

<<you take offense at everything>>>

No, not "everything"...only at those things which are offensive.


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Registered: 07-28-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 9:03am
n/t


Edited 12/21/2006 9:05 am ET by ivil_mami25