Insecurity issues
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Insecurity issues
| Sun, 09-17-2006 - 7:23pm |
Hello,
I have a highschool reunion coming up and for some reason all my insecurities from highschool are coming back. I'm not sure why; I've lost almost all the weight I'm supposed to in order to reach my "ideal" weight and I receive compliments on how I look; especially from people I haven't seen in years...but no matter what, I still feel like the geek from school...ever since I first heard about this reunion. How can I overcome this, especially since I'm single (I'm going without a date) and from what I heard, many of my old classmates are in serious relationships or married.
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| Sun, 09-17-2006 - 10:28pm |
The first bit of advice I can give you is, don't think that just because other people are married or in a serious relationship, doesn't mean they are happy. They may hide it well, and try to make you feel bad for being single as a defense mechanism, but it all honesty, if people are truly happy, they don't see any reason to pick at others. So, if someone makes a snide comment or tries to make you feel inferior because of who you used to be or because you're single, just remember, they're only saying that because they are miserable themselves.
| Sun, 09-17-2006 - 10:44pm |
"say what you want and be who you are, because those who MIND don't matter... and those who MATTER don't mind." Dr. Seuss said that, and i always try to live by it. i totally identify with your insecurities, but life is too short to worry about what others think. you can lose all the weight in the world and look like a million bucks, but the strongest light is the one shining from within. you are a unique and worthy individual. "geek" is a label, whether someone called you that, or you labeled yourself, it isn't REAL. what is real is who you are, what you have accomplished, and how you treat other people. your talents, personality quirks, and all of the little details that make you YOU, are what's REAL. if you remind yourself how lucky you are to be alive, count your blessings, and try to move forward without worrying about other people, you might just boost that security a little. there is also the option of NOT attending the reunion. i didn't attend mine because i didn't want to feed into the B.S. of showing up and "comparing lives" with people i hadn't seen in 10 years. i figured if there was anyone i shared a strong enough connection with i could look them up and get in touch with them - i didn't need an organized reunion to do it. just do what feels right, and give yourself permission to feel good about yourself.
