Insensitive (but well meaning) friends

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Insensitive (but well meaning) friends
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 11:16am

Last night I was invited by my married friends (a couple) to come to a Holiday party at their club, which is also known to have some singles. They told me that there should be a lot of single men there. When I got there, the party had about 500 people- but it was ALL couples- about half my parents age and the other half 20-30s.

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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 2:31pm

You're right on all counts. My family is not the sensitive types, so I don't express my true feelings towards them. However, I have a few people who I can speak that openly to and they won't freak out.

A while back I told a couple of women I was having dinner with that I was lonely...these are women I used to work with (both married), we get together on our birthdays, but we really aren't what I would call close. My comment made them uncomfortable and then they proceeded to give me all kinds of "tips" for meeting men. Ugh!

But you are so right: there are just people who really are uncomfortable expressing their deep feeligs or hearing yours. I've learned this the hard way. But a therpist pointed out to me that if I didn't express myself to people, how would they get to know me better? It's a valid point, but I think it's pointless with some people. BTW, I have NO trouble expressing my "negative" emotions...I have had to really reign (sp?) that in.

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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 10:05pm

Thank you Tall Girl for your comment and thank you Floridagirl52 for your thoughts.


I have been thinking about this lately...how I miss just having someone I can just feel whatever I feel

Soliel
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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 9:48am

Hello Everyone,


I'm new to the board and thought that I'd give my thoughts on this topic.

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Sat, 12-22-2007 - 12:50pm

I really loved your post.


The comment about the diamond commercials was insightful.

Soliel
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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 6:35pm
Thank you lv2breathe.
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Registered: 07-02-2006
Sun, 12-23-2007 - 2:28pm

hey, ariel1120, you are not alone.

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