It doesn't give much hope to those of us still in our twenties. What do you think? Is this the truth?
What's unfortunate is that many women in their 20's are in really that same state of affairs mentally, emotionally, physically, professionally and socially...but HAVE kids and need the stability, security,and responsible approach of someone who wants a mate, who is willing to forgo weekend parties for parental obligations at kids events, etc. etc. etc. Basically - what those 20 something year old women are trying to do is get a guy to "get into the same boat" with them...as they got in when having the child. They want the guy to forgo the experiences and options that only 20-somethings with no obligations and commitments can have.....because the women themselves have obligations and responsibliities and can't utilize those options and opportunities.
And most 20-something year old men won't...at least not long term....look statistically at the number of "absentee" fathers in the late teens and 20's for a reality check.
Why is why lots of young 20-something women....marry mid 30-something men....and those relationships tend to lapse in mutual interests and goals when the woman is almost 40 and now is going to be parentally responsibility free....something she wasn't in her youth, and now the "adult" options and opportunities and experiences that are equivalent to the youthful options and opportunities she couldn't utilize and partake in - are available.
He's been there, done that - in his 20's. He wanted a mate for a lifetime and chose her based on his long-term goals and needs. She however had needs and requirements to meet in the immediate present that she chose him based on....and now that those needs and requirements are met....there is often little in common in terms of goals, interests, pursuits, and expectations. There's just lots of shared "equity" in possessions, positions, and assets.
If you study why divorce rates rise and fall.....link it to pregnancy rates in young women and you'll see some similarities.
I'm 25, and i am wanting to find a wonderful man. But, the hardest part is being alone and waiting. Or watching your friends go out on dates and start a good relationship. Things are bound to look up, i hope. Hope this helps--
Anyway, sorry to ramble on, but my point is that there definitely are men out there in their 20s (especially late 20s) who are ready to settle down.