interesting article

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interesting article
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Sun, 09-15-2013 - 1:06pm

Even for those of who may be looking for a partner, I thought this was a good reead.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/15/realestate/living-apart-together.html?emc=eta1

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 09-15-2013 - 5:18pm

I can see many reasons why this might make sense, even though some of the things that make it applicable to NYC like rent controlled apartments, don't apply.  I've been divorced twice.  Right now I own a home but will have to sell it next year to pay off my ex.  I'll probably get an apt for a while but when my mother passes, I'll inherit her house so who knows--suppose I buy a condo or something?  It's just scary after 2 divorces to think of co-owning a house w/ someone again.  I wouldn't do it if I wasn't married & I doubt I'd get married again.  I could always rent out a place I have.

That aside, after living w/ men (not 2 at the same time, 2 in sequence) and then living alone, sometimes it's nice to have alone time, not to have to cook, to be able to go to bed when you want, etc.  On the other hand, it seems kind of dumb to have 2 separate places if you're going to be sleeping over the other person's house every night.  I know a woman who is in a relationship and she sleeps over the BF's house every night and then gets up at 5:30 am, goes back to her house (which is only 10 mins away) and then gets ready for work--I wouldn't do that.  I'd at least bring my work clothes to his house, but then that's a pain too.

Oh well since I don't even get dates, this is all a theoretical problem.