An interesting evening

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Registered: 11-28-1999
An interesting evening
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Sun, 11-06-2011 - 9:42pm

Some of you will remember that I have a crush on this guy in my dance school.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 11-06-2011 - 9:53pm
Good for her! Yes, it was awkward for both of you, but someone had to make a move! It just wasn't one of you. I read somewhere a long time ago that someone just suggesting someone might be interested in you actually makes them more interested. Maybe she knows something about him that she's not telling.

I think you should have a party. Who cares if your house is old. Mine is small but I still host bunko for 16 people once a year. I bet some people will love being in a more personal setting.
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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sun, 11-06-2011 - 11:15pm

That sounds like Shy's awkward bar friend!

Here's my idea:

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 11-07-2011 - 10:32am

My friend has a BF so I'm not worried about her even though she looks like she could be a model and I certainly don't.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 11-07-2011 - 10:48am

If you dont invite him over for dinner or ask him out on a date I can assure you that someone else will. He will be snatched up quickly by someone who will invite him to dinner or out on a date. Such is single life for a man.

You will have lost out on that opportunity that we all talk about here...

Its your choice but if you dont strike when the iron is hot nothing will happen. Nothing from nothing leaves nothing.

Why would that involve intimacy?? You dont have to do what you dont want to. This is not high school you know (lol)

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 11-07-2011 - 11:31am

I was really referring to what Marina said about intimacy--actually I'd probably be the one wanting to jump him!

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 11-07-2011 - 11:46am

Music perhaps that is most of our problems we don't have "game".

chaika

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 11-07-2011 - 1:52pm

Ok, XX, so as a guy who has no game and maybe feels uncomfortable around women, what signs (other than directly asking you out) would a woman have to make to get YOU to ask her out besides being generally friendly and talking to you.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 11-07-2011 - 3:34pm

Hmm, I've got to say if he's talking about his OLD experiences in front of you, I'm thinking he's not interested (sorry). This isn't to say that he couldn't become interested at a later date, but I think inviting him out alone is not the way to go. And if someone comes along and "snaps him up" by asking him out, well, that's just the way it goes. I feel like if you have to ask a man out after you've met and are friendly and receptive that it's just not a good sign.

You don't need to give up altogether, of course--perhaps he will see you in a different light at some point. I'm in a similar situation right now myself. I met a man 3 years ago through OLD. He was the only one I met that year who I wanted to go out with, but he never asked. Instead, I kept running into him at events and we would talk. He eventually sent me a friend request on FB. Still no date. Fast forward, I was floored when he called me to go out back in October. I already had plans, so couldn't go, but then two weeks later he asked me out again and I went. So, now I'm just waiting to see what will happen--maybe nothing. And I really don't know enough about him to even know if we'd be good together anyway yet. But--I'd like to find dout ;-)

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 11-07-2011 - 6:13pm

chaika

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Mon, 11-07-2011 - 8:16pm

I have to agree with you, FG.

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