interesting question

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interesting question
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Mon, 09-18-2006 - 4:07am

The first time you really feel something for someone....your first love.

You are with them and then it ends and you dont speak to them for 4-5 years....and you still cant stop thinking about them even though you havent spoken to that person in almost half a decade....

What could that possibly mean?

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Mon, 09-18-2006 - 7:38am

It means that you have some really good memories.


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Mon, 09-18-2006 - 7:24pm
To me it means that you have not recieved the closure you need in order to move on....
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Mon, 09-18-2006 - 8:00pm
Could mean that you haven't received the closure but I believe that it could also mean that you just haven't met anyone yet quite like that person. Nobody special enough has come along to take your mind off of your previous love. When the right person comes along I believe that those thoughts will probably dissapate some. I would try to get more closure though from this past relationship.
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Mon, 09-18-2006 - 10:47pm

My view is that it's the fantasy of what MIGHT have been.

You only got to see this person for a very short period of time (and you were young and idealistic, probably). This person was a fantasy. But then the fantasy ended. And you're left with all these fantastic memories and ideal notions.

It's also the memory of that flow of hormones you got when you were close to that person. It's a chemical high, make no mistake about that.

But here's what you MISSED: you missed seeing this person get old, gain weight, get sick after a night of drinking too much, etc. You missed real life as it really is. And you missed seeing this person after the chemical high wore off.

No big mystery. Just biology in action.

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Tue, 09-19-2006 - 10:29am

if you are not involved with anyone else it could mean that you are longing to be. and this person,to you, signifies being in a relationship. if you are involved with someone, either you haven't had enough closure or you aren't happy and you possibly want out of the relationship you are in.

Sarah

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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 7:50pm
So judging by ur reponses I guess it wouldn't be a good idea to try and get in touch with this girl?
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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 10:16pm

I think you already know the answer to that question.


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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 11:53pm
no i dont know the answer to that. I really want to but i dont know if it is a good idea or if it is creepy and stalker-like
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 5:44am

That means that you have spent the last half of a decade wasting your life pining for someone who is history and therefore didn't make any effort at all to go out there and meet a new 'love of your life' thus eliminating the need to live in the past.
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 7:29am

I really don't know what you'd gain from it.

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