interesting question

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Registered: 04-13-2006
interesting question
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Mon, 09-18-2006 - 4:07am

The first time you really feel something for someone....your first love.

You are with them and then it ends and you dont speak to them for 4-5 years....and you still cant stop thinking about them even though you havent spoken to that person in almost half a decade....

What could that possibly mean?

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Registered: 08-07-2006
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 4:08pm
You know what I would say go for it yeah you might get hurt or it might work out but if your single and she's single than why not. Everyone is saying forget it but why? Did she hurt you in the past? Did the relationship end on bad terms? If not than this could mean you have another chance and there's no harm in trying.
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Registered: 09-23-2006
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 12:24am
It means you are completely and utterly in love. Maybe even a little obsessed. I went through the same thing about 2 years ago and still to this day I think about him, even though I've dated many other guys he is still the one that got away. The one I could never really have and the deepest of all my desires. So naturally he was bad for me. I was completely over taken by him and no one seems to be able to connect with me on a level that he did.
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 2:10pm
This happened to me about 10 years ago. I thought of him, my 'first love', in a romantic way for about 5 years, but when I finally contacted him, I was amazed at how much I built it into something it wasn't. We had both changed so much into far two different people with different paths. We are definitely not compatible romatically, but we're friends now and keep in touch a couple times a year.
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Registered: 09-27-2006
Wed, 09-27-2006 - 4:15pm
I think it means that they were very special to you. Look them up and let them know.
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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 4:39pm

I still think about my first love pretty often, and it's been 13 years. I think it's because that person is the first one who made you realize what love really means. They will always have a special place in your heart.

Also, I have noticed that I tend to look for the traits I liked in that guy in all the guys I've dated since. There was something that drew me to him specifically, and I always am reminded of him by little mannerisms, etc. in other people.

(My first love is married with a kid, by the way, so I never have the "what if" thoughts. There's no going back, but it's nice that my first love was such a positive experience).

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 4:28am
well i havent talked to my first love in almost 5 years. Shed be 21 now. I have tried to find an address or phoen number but with no luck. I cant seem to find her and shes been preoccupying my thoughts for a long time now. I just wanna talk to her again. If nothing else, hearing her voice always made me happy, I just get sad thinkning I may never see or hear from her again.
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Thu, 09-28-2006 - 10:55am

I haven't seen mine for 10 years, but I ran into his sister last year. She proceeded to tell me that he has sort of fallen apart physically and emotionally, has a big beer belly and long scruffy beard. :) (Not that those things are inherently bad - just very different from how I remember him).

My point is, although I haven't seen him and he will always hold a very special place in my heart, it's very unlikely he'd live up to my expectations now. Plus, there's the whole married with a kid thing.

There's no harm in calling the girl to say hello, but don't expect the great American romance novel to come out of it. Look at it as checking in with an old friend - no expectations. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 11:30am
im not sure shed want to hear from me tho becuz we didnt end on the best terms....so i dont know. I will keep trying to find her though.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 11:45am
I wonder if the reason you want to connect with her is because you're having a dating dry spell...I know when I have dating dry spells, I start thinking about ex boyfriends a lot...but when I have other prospects, I really don't think about them...if that makes sense...
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Fri, 09-29-2006 - 12:29am
i have been thinking about her for over 2 years now. It's not a recent thing. I have just tried to ignore it b/c everyone seems to say its unhealthy so I try to forget about her.