Interesting Sat. night (long cause I'm bored at work)

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Interesting Sat. night (long cause I'm bored at work)
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Mon, 12-23-2013 - 11:05am

I went to a dance Sat. night--they have monthly salsa dances and since I started going in the summer, there are a lot of the same people there.  I met my friend G, who I was originally interested in, but I figure nothing is going to happen there.  He is a little younger than me, but he's interested in women who are a lot younger than him.  He has never been married & I think he does want to get married & have kids so that's kind of logical although a little unrealistic.  Last month after the dance we went out for pizza and had this long strange talk about dating & sex.  It was kind of annoying because he was talking about this one woman he was interested in but was unsure about whether he wanted to date her cause she smokes & he hates smoking.  You know when you get the feeling "hey, I'm a woman here too and you are ignoring that fact" so I told him that I found this guy J attractive.  I do realize there are things that really would annoy me about G, mainly that he's cheap and doesn't seem to know what direction he wants to go in as far as employment and I'm kind of old to deal with that stuff.

So back to this week.  I had told G that I was probably going to go to the dance, but I was surprised that he texted me to ask if I was going.  I said yes & I'm bringing friends (one man & one woman).  He says he's hopping in the shower and going to be there soon, then later he texted again to ask if I was there yet (but I didn't see that because the dance starts with a lesson & I was doing that).  So most of the night G wasn't even dancing, although he did dance with me.  He said he's losing his enthusiasm for it, he doesn't feel that he's improving and he seemed kind of depressed--yeah, if I wanted a depressed guy, I'd go back to my ex!

So J came in during the lesson but he didn't participate in it--when he saw me, he winked.  After the lesson, my friend & I went out to go to the ladies room and when we went back in, I had to pass by him. I was just going to say hi, but he hugged me.  I was kind of surprised.  There is a latin dance called the bachata and you can get very very close.  So J did that with me and I thought after that, it was enough to make my night--he is very hot!  So I guess G was watching because later on he says "why didn't you just knock him down on the dance floor and have sex with him?"--isn't it odd about men that they don't want you but then still can sound jealous?  Over the course of the night, I dance with J a couple more times too.  Then when the dance ended I was talking a little with him and then I said Merry Christmas and actually kissed him on the cheek.  I know it's not much but since I am having no success in the dating world, it was the most exciting thing that happened to me in a while.  lol

Oh there was another man there who I probably could have gotten a date with--he really liked dancing with me.  He was nice but kind of chubby but I just wasn['t attracted to him--but why is that always the case?  You always want the ones that you can't have and then the guys you like aren't interested in you--I'm sure that men say the same things too.

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Ok how do you suggest that I do that without totally humiliating myself if he has no interest in me?

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