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|Sun, 06-09-2013 - 11:43am|
Well this is kind of embarrassing but here goes. As the regular people know, I met a guy and had 2 "dates" with him where I could never tell whether it was really a date or how much he liked me--he was kind of giving me mixed messages. We have a female friend "S" in common--she is actually his exGF--they broke up at least a year ago & she has another BF now so she is definitely out of the picture. I've actually seen her a couple of times at meetup events--that's how we met. So the last time I saw her, she asked me what was going on with him. I said I didn't know and told her about the last time we were together--and I clearly said that I did not know whether he was interested in me or not. She said why don't you tell him you are interested and then you'll know. Well that is not me--I can't see just emailing someone to say you're interested, I wouldn't even suggest a man do that. But I did invite him to a dance that I was going to do a group performance at. When I didn't hear back from him, then I just assumed he wasn't interested and that would have been clear enough to me.
So I also knew that the same day as the dance that both of them were running a race that a.m. That night (and I'm glad I didn't get this email til the next day cause I had a really fun night) I got an email from him that said "S told me that you think that we are having a relationship" and he went on to say that he's sorry that I misunderstood, he only likes me as a friend and dance partner--and he's dating someone else!--but he hopes we can still be friends and dance together. I know he was trying to be as nice as possible. But now I am embarrassed for no reason! I surely never thought that we were "in a relationship." Who would think that after 2 dates anyway even if it was clear that the guy liked you? And I'm sure that S did not say that after we had a long discussion about how I didn't know how he felt--maybe she told him that I would like to be in a relationship which, again, is something that she should not have said.
So now I am pretty annoyed. I'm sure she felt she was trying to help this along because she likes fixing people up, but it really backfired. She could have been a lot more subtle about it or just asked him if he was dating anyone--and then he would have told her about the other woman. Now I have unncessary embarrassment with him that could have been avoided. If he had just stopped calling for no reason, then he would have been the one in the awkward position, not me, or I could have just pretended that everything was fine. Now I really hope that we just don't run into each other.