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| Mon, 09-26-2005 - 9:51am |
I (finally) decided to make a serious attempt at Internet dating. I've sent my first message already! Women, what would compel you to reply to a message that a man has sent you? Would he need to be excessively handsome and unbelievably charming? If so, I have a fair chance at achieving success!

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Hello Hal, I've been following this post and it's so interesting. I agree that when you want to contact a woman, you have to make it short and to the point, no mushy stuff or long emails. In my case, as soon as I see that in a message, I just delete it, it is such a turn off.
Now on your other question, I agree with you that we like to be chased, every time I have emailed, winked a guy or chased him, he looses interest. Another suggestion would be if you email a woman you like, include a picture, I've gotten so many emails without pictures and going to the effort of going back and forth with personal emails and then seeing the pictures, and then I end up not liking the guys and it's so embarrasing, because then I don't reply back, I feel bad telling them I am not attracted! For me, I have to feel attracted physically first and then I look at your other traits. This is me :)
Hi hotkarina,
I have 2 photographs on my profile and only women I contact can see it-my profile. Hopefully, women that reply would have seen my pictures and like the way I look when standing perfectly still with a fixed expression on my face. But I'm wondering if only paying subscribers will be able to look at my profile and read the e-mails I send? It's not clear if people are free or paying members.
Which service do you use? I know the ins and outs of many of them with respect to how things work for non-paying subscribers ;-).
Sheri
Then yes, non-paying members can see your profile and photos, and read your emails. They cannot *respond*, however, other than by sending an icebreaker. The way to get around that is to include an email address where they can reach you in your initial email (yahoo doesn't strip email addresses out like match does...at least not yet. I tested this last month.).
Sheri
Good point Sheri, I think most guys should just assume that most of the women are non-subscribers and be a little more straightforward and send an email address so we can contact them back. The only way I am replying now on yahoo is by sending an icebreaker, I cross my fingers that they get the hint, lol...
Hal, if you really want a woman to contact you back, besides sending your pics then also send your personal email address or other alternative contact information so if she's interested, she can reply back to you. Good luck in your search :o)
The chances of meeting a women on the Internet that you can have a long term relationship with are about the same as a beautiful naked women walking through my living room while I am watching the baseball game.
Here's my basis for saying this and why....
I have been divorced for eight years and had three serious relationships. If I counted the women I have gone out on dates with that I did not meet on the Internet it is about ten during this period. Of those ten, I had long term relationships wit three of them that were more than eighteen months long.
Over the past nearly five years I have tried meeting women through a variety of web sites. I'd bet I have met twenty women (Met means eye ball to eye ball). Of those twenty, I have only been on more than two dates with one of them. If I've had three serious relationships in the past eight years, I must know something about women and how to cultivate a relationship.
So where are the better odds, on line or relying on your friends, family, co-workers to set up? Or gee, here's another thought, lets all get off the couch for a sec, go out and let the world know that we are available. We just might meet someone!
It ceases to amaze me how many cool and easy ways there are to meet people but it all starts with one very simple idea. Walk up to someone and say "Hello." Its as easy as that.
Peace,
Matt.
Oh, I think the odds are a lot higher than that! I know at least 5 happily married couples who met online...probably more if I think about it for more than half a sec.
But, I *do* think a mix of meeting people online and through activities is a good idea.
I don't know what your age group is, but there are very few single guys in mine who go out and DO things...all the activities are attended by WAAAY more women...so a guy who got out and did a few things here would have a GREAT chance of meeting someone!
Sheri
Well, since you quoted me and then went on to use money as an example of how a woman might screen a man online differently from in person, I felt as if you were putting words in my mouth.
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