Intimacy - More than 1, 2,...?
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Intimacy - More than 1, 2,...?
| Tue, 02-20-2007 - 10:13pm |
Hey Everyone,
So I need to pose this question. Let's say you were dating a guy in the past, and you two have made an agreement to just be fwb. Would you be hurt, offended, if the guy was also intimate with other women, while still coming back and continuing that intimate relationship with you as well? Do you have any grounds for being upset?

Well, you can be upset all you want, but technically he's not doing anything wrong unless you both agreed to be exclusive.
Ok, but if you both agreed to let the other person know if either of you found, or were intimate with anyone else. He was, never provided that info to you, but when you asked him, only then did he let you know.
Would you still have grounds for being upset and what are your thoughts on being intimate with someone who sleeps around?
Yes it's the 21st century, but aren't people concerned about the risks associated with being intimate with someone who has multiple sex partners anymore? Or is this conservative thinking?
Thanks!
If you agreed that you'd let eachother know if/when you were intimate with someone else, yes, you have a reason to be upset.
I have to be honest and say that at this stage in my life (I'm 36) even an 'exclusive' lol FWB r-ship would be out of the question for me. Now even when I was younger and could deal with this whole FWB concept, if the FWB in quesion blatantly advised me that I wasn't his only FWB, I couldn't possibly deal with that. Upset?? I'd scream at him for at least 20-30 mins and tell him to go **** himself, to put it mildly. No way. No. My honest answer.
Honestly, I don't think anyone should ever have to justify their feelings (ie being upset), but just their reactions to them.
My take is that it does not matter if you take a vote or a poll on whether you are justified or not. It is honoring what you are feeling.
I believe the work of any relationship is to communicate. It is not a matter of being "justified" IMHO. It is a matter of letting the other person know how you are feeling and why without judgment or blame. Then have a discussion.
Mark
I don't get jealous, but if you want an open relationship, why can't he as well?