irritated with my roomate

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Registered: 12-07-2005
irritated with my roomate
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 8:32am

My roomate and i have been good friends for a long time. We've been living together for about 2 years. For the most part things are good. She has had a boyfriend the whole time we've been living together. She spends (spent) a lot of time at his place which makes it nice for me. I'm not around at all during the workweek until about 8:30pm. So to make a long story short my roomate and her bf were having problem. My roomate ends up meeting someone else about a week and a half ago. Last night she came home at about 10 and was pretty drunk. Sunday evenvings are usually my time to just relax on the couch. She was being really loud and obnoxious repeating the same thing over and over again. She told me that the new guy was coming over. I just said, ok. She continued to be obnoxious and i didnt pay attention to her. I think this irritated. she asked if i was mad, i said no. She kept saying, yes you are, you're mad, why are you mad. THis actually did start to really irritate me. SO then her man gets here and i hear her tell him that i'm in a bad mood. I dont even know this guy. he comes in and she's like, oh my roomate is being really angry and nasty. I was like, um ok. she kept saying it and i was finally like, ok well i'll talk to you tomorrow. She said, no maybe not tomorrow, maybe the day after that or that day after that. I said, sure fine whatever. Then they went off to her bedroom to do who knows what.

I cant really be upset about her having a guy over because i had a boyfriend for about 4 months who would come over frequently. But i know that i wasnt disruptive the way she was last night and being outright rude. I think the whole situation is bogas. She has a boyfriend who she's had for about 2 and a half years...she said she doesnt feel guilty about cheating on him. It kind of seem like she and that boyfriend are on the verge of breaking up...but she has told me that she wont completely break it off until she is sure she has something else lined up with someoen else. It's crazy. I almost hope her and the long term bf dont break up because then she wont be around as much...i fear that this new guy will be coming over a lot because so far that's been the theme. I was honest with her and told her that i dont agree with what she's doing, i think it's selfish and i dont think it's fair...but it's not my life. what would you do?

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Mon, 03-27-2006 - 1:58pm

Well, is she just your roommate, or is she your friend? If she's just your roommate, I would mind my own business, but consider looking for a new one, if living there were really that unbearable.

Either way, I'd wait until she were sober, and tell her that I felt her behavior was disrectful and rude. People who live together need to respect each other's space.

You're right, it isn't your life, but you do share the same living quarters, and she has no right to be rude to you.


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