Irritating

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Registered: 06-19-2006
Irritating
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Thu, 06-22-2006 - 12:49pm

Here is why I am irritated. I went out with this guy once. It was a pretty good time and for once, I was attracted to him. Anyway, he called to make a date for meeting #2. He told me he would call me either Monday or Tuesday to confirm for date #2, so we could work around the nights I am not in class after work. We decided on Wednesday. Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday come around and no call. So what can you say to yourself, but "Oh well. His loss."

Here is the other irritating thing. Whether I am driving to work or taking the EL downtown, I see him ALL the time. When I am driving, I see him walking to work. When I am on the train, I notice he is on the same train.

This week alone, I have seen him everyday I had been downtown. Everyday. Usually I only see him. But he noticed me first while on the train Monday. AND walking down the street today he saw me walking to work.

So of course, I don't want to talk to him so I find myself walking rather quickly to work in order to avoid him. Sh*t. One of these days we are really going to bump into each other.

So yes, I am irritated that I have to see him. Why can't I see that cute trader that smiled at me a few weeks ago. God, isn't it funny how life works sometimes!

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Registered: 05-19-2003
In reply to: kcol68
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 1:00pm

That burns me up. I would seriously consider pulling an Elaine Benes on his butt and confront him head-on. Get right in his face and say to him 'what happened to you??' He thinks he can get away withthe slimy thing he did and is probably ducking you as well. Spineless.

M co-worker just had the same thing happen to her. Yesterday was her B-day and her date dejour said he'd call her after the game and take her out for a drink. NO CALL, NOTHING. She never heard from him. I told him to call him on it right now. Don't let him get away with treating you like crap.

Unbelievable!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: kcol68
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 1:11pm

That would be exactly what happened with the last two guys I went out with.

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Registered: 06-19-2006
In reply to: kcol68
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 1:24pm

If I get in his face, then I am the one who looks bad.

I really don't want to give a reaction because then it looks like he meant more to me, which he doesn't.

If he feels this is acceptable, then he will just be alone the rest of his life and that to me, is the best revenge.

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Registered: 06-19-2006
In reply to: kcol68
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 1:26pm
I am more just irritated that I keep seeing him, more then anything.
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Registered: 05-19-2003
In reply to: kcol68
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 1:29pm

Yeah I know what you mean about being the one that cares more. I debated over telling this guy off for not responding to my message when really it makes me look more invested and feeling foolish.

I just hate the idea of people doing this to other people and totally getting away with it.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: kcol68
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:25pm

It has been my experience is most people I encounter do not do as they say. If someone says they are going to do something, I do not really expect them to really follow through. They say having expectations is having premeditated resentments. I still get irritated and when I see or talk to them I usually ask "what happened?" in a non-confrontational way.

I was raised by parents that I could always count on. They someone passed that on to their children for I can count on my brothers doing what they say they will do... of course they don't say much LOL.

Integrity is very key for me to live myself. I do not like to commit unless I know I can really follow through. I am a type of person to show up early rather than on time. However I have been trained by friends I meet that being "late" is acceptable for I have to wait for them anyway. For dates, I show up early.

Even if I am not interested or things come up, I communicate that with the other person. I guess I am the exception.

Mark

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Registered: 04-11-2003
In reply to: kcol68
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 4:26pm

That is VERY irritating! It's happened to me before, too, where a guy never called when he said he would and then I constantly saw him around. I seriously was tempted to do an "Elaine Benes", as someone else mentioned LOL, and confront him! But I figured it wasn't worth the energy and aggravation.


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Registered: 04-11-2003
In reply to: kcol68
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 4:32pm

"It has been my experience is most people I encounter do not do as they say. If someone says they are going to do something, I do not really expect them to really follow through."


I've found this to be, sadly, true as well. Just in the past couple of weeks I've experienced it. It's as if lots of people believe following through is optional.


"Integrity is very key for me to live myself. I do not like to commit unless I know I can really follow through."


Me too. I would much rather say, "Let me get back to you on that" (and then *really* get back to the person) than commit myself to something and never get around to following up on it.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: kcol68
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 4:48pm
So are you doing anything this weekend...? *grin*
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Registered: 04-11-2003
In reply to: kcol68
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 5:13pm

Nope! :)


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