Is it Hopeless for us the over 50 Crowd !!!!

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Is it Hopeless for us the over 50 Crowd !!!!
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Thu, 04-24-2014 - 12:58pm

So omg I just turned 60 and feeling like dating now has become hopeless or even finding someone decent... I get some messages now from dating sites from young men and old men but they either ghost are scams or appear very strange..........I have my age on there and a man who is like 72 with no pic wants to meet me.. is this what happens now? LOL

My BFF that I knew as a kid who now lives in Florida is married . She is my age and her husbsand is 75.... they live in a huge retirement village called the Villages. They have been there for many years.. She is happy there and has a nice life... She calls me here and there and says well now that you are 60 its pretty hopeless finding a mate so the best thing to do is move to a retirement home and be with your peers and have fun and all of that.. Blah blah blah!!! Wow that really felt like a kick in the face......but maybe she is right..I still have no job, limited income and opportunities are less and less................Maybe I am being delusional about it all.......and should move to a retirement village.. but I tried living in Florida for a bit but I didnt like it but it was under different circumstances..

So you over 50 crowd or anyone who would like to share thoughts??? There are some of these retirement places in NY but not many....and they are in isolated places.. well what do you guys think?? Is it time to give up on the dating scene and try something else???? Hey remember Marina would say lets all get into an RV and travel around country.. If I had people to do that with I would do it...

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Registered: 04-28-2000
Tue, 05-13-2014 - 4:53pm

Hi Free, don't give up.  I'm not 60 yet but I've started taking dancing classes and I go to sets.  I do try to stay very active.  I did sign up for online dating but I haven't seen anyone, I'm interested in.  I'm very careful so I would rather met someone the old fashion way instead of online dating.  I personally think its easy to find someone for fwb but I'm looking for something real and since I don't have 59 years ahead of me, I'm not going to take the chance of someone who doesn't want what I want.  Really, I guess, I haven't been looking long only 3 yrs since I've been a widow but I've enjoyed every second of it.  I think a retirement area is good but don't limit yourself there.  Get out and meet people, who knows you will find someone.  There is someone for everyone.  Do think positive, recreate yourself and things will fall into place. 

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