is it meant to be?

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Registered: 03-04-2007
is it meant to be?
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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 9:59pm

I had a craving for cold ice-cream because it's been so hot in NY. I wound up eating the whole thing because I got semi-bad news the other day and have been in a slump!!

I've been friends with this guy for almost 2 years, but with a long gap of no contact inbetween. I called him after almost 9 months because I heard he was downsized (we used to work together but I resigned before he was laid off).

He has admitted to me he that still loves his ex-fiance. We had lunch one day and he told me she's dating someone. We're both on myspace, she was his number 1, but he moved her down to 9 and I'm 10. Then he started to call me more than usual and I thought MAYBE he liked me, just a tiny bit. We always talked about meeting up but then pre-planned summer plans got in the way.

He was downsized in May, but got re-hired by the same company except it's for the branch office in Atlanta, GA. He says it's temporary for 3 months, so I asked if he is subletting his apartment. He said no because he doesn't trust anyone with his stuff. Also, he doesn't want to put it in storage, so he is still paying rent. He gave me his new office number and told me to call him.

I feel like his temporay job down south is a sign of fate that it's not meant to be. I'll meet someone while he's gone and he'll do the same.

3 months!!!! I mean, now that I think of it, he wanted to see me a few weeks ago but I couldn't. I am kicking myself right now.......will I ever see him again? Does he really want me to call him? Why did he give me his new work number? I know, I hear it all the time, we're friends and friends do keep in touch....I can't take this anymore. I'm still trying to go out on dates and meet other guys, but why not keep him as a friend just in case?

Why is being single and in your 30's so hard?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:12pm

After two years, if he were interested in dating you he would have pursued it by now.