Is it a Men's Market?

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Is it a Men's Market?
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:20am

So this has been a running discussion among my friends for a few weeks and I want to know what you all think about your areas.

I've come to the conclusion that at least where I live (MD/DC area) the dating scene is a men's market as they have a "multitude" of options, as many men have told me as far as finding attractive, intelligent, dateable women. Whereas we women are left basically trying to grab whatever is left as there are very few attractive, intelligent, dateable men. In fact, me and my friends have come to the conclusion that we must live in an overwhelmingly unattractive city as we can't seem to find men here that are reasonably attractive. The problem is my city (Baltimore) is high in "ghetto mentality" and most men here like to sport the ghetto, hip hop, thug look which does nothing but detract the professional career-oriented women such as myself and my friends. While there are TONS of beautiful women everywhere, basically chasing down the good ones, who are left with so many options, they needn't choose so they juggle all that they can commitment-free.

So what do you think? Is it a "men's market" where you area? How often you do see attractive men out and about? How often do you see attractive women out and about?

Any other thoughts?

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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 1:53pm
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Edited 7/10/2007 9:27 am ET by elwood1960
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 2:09pm

"Younger men for the most part have not yet learned to look there friends straight in the eye and ask them . . ."when is being whipped ever a bad thing" . . .lol"

Awww, I think that is soo sweet and honestly, touching. I do think younger or more immature guys are afraid of really surrending themselves to love and women which is too bad. I do know of a great guy that is dating my best friend and admittedly completely whipped and sprung on her. And he is SO DAGGONE happy! Cause truth be told, the man that can give himself to a woman like that will usually be spoiled silly by the woman who would do anything to please him.

But you do bring up a great point. The guy I just left, at 31 years old, still scoffs at his friends who are getting married and in serious relationships like that's weird or unusual. But he claims he wants a relationship. Obviously, he just isn't mature enough yet to allow someone that close to his heart or he'd be realizing the same happiness his giddy friends are.

Too bad. I would have glad kept him happy.

I guess it is good to know that deep down, these men do want love too. Lots of men make us women feel like love is just our girlish whims.

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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 2:39pm
Well....I agree that some men (boys?) around my age are open to the idea of a relationship and just won't admit it, but...actions speak louder than words and I've dated a lot of idiot 23, 24-year old guys who have the dating attention spans of gnats. They do, for the most part, seem like nice guys, guys I'd be friends with, just NOT guys to date. THEN they come running back a couple months later when they're tired of whomever they stopped dating me for and tell me that I was "real" and that they miss me. Umm, too bad for you, isn't it?? I also just relate better to guys that are slightly older...and I've been told by some of my 30-ish guy friends, as a general rule (to which there are exceptions) not to date anyone under 25. :)
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:17pm
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Edited 7/10/2007 9:27 am ET by elwood1960
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:37pm
I would imagine the emotional gap between the ages isn't as big of a deal once you get a little older (though what do I know?? :) ), but now...man, haha. We had a temp in at work that was beyond ridiculous...the epitome of laziness. We gave him perhaps the simplest of simple tasks and he still did everything wrong, and my only conclusion is that he just didn't care. I told my co-worker that he was 27 and she responded, "Really?? He's a very immature 27, I thought he was right out of high school." I told her, welcome to my world. :) Obviously most cases aren't so extreme, just a recent example that came to mind. On the other hand, people are usually surprised to know my age. I may look 16, but I act older than 22. :) This probably doesn't help me on the dating front either!!
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:40pm
I've been dating guys in their late 20s' to early 30's and I still find them to be very immature and not at all ready for a real relationship. They are still in partying and hooking up mode. So obviously I don't date them for long.
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:49pm

It's definitely a men's market in Nashville. Every handsome man I see is on some girls arm, is married or gay.

What's interesting is, it seems I meet more available men on the outskirts of town, in the more rural areas. I say available, what I mean is, I actually see men out alone, with no wedding ring. It's hard to say if they are actually spoken for or not.

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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 4:04pm

>>I've been dating guys in their late 20s' to early 30's and I still find them to be very immature and not at all ready for a real relationship.

Well that's depressing!! :) I've pretty much never been in that mode so maybe that's why I don't date all that often...patience, I suppose.

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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 4:26pm

Well, ya know what?

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Edited 7/10/2007 9:28 am ET by elwood1960