Is it ok to feel this way? Am I normal?

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Registered: 09-16-2005
Is it ok to feel this way? Am I normal?
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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 5:48pm
I have been single from an abusive and manipulative relationship for the past 3 months and 3 weeks. It was a terrible relationship in which lasted 1 year and 8 months. I have not dated any men or anything, because I felt the most healthy thing for me was to concentrate on going to therapy and healing from a broken heart and an abusive ass that I went out with. I have not dated or really even put myself out there to begin dating since I was still hurt and emotionally attached to the wrong man. Now recently I met a personal trainer at my gym and he seemed very outgoing and handsome. We spoke but then he started to give me this impression that he was pretty cocky. For example, we had just met at the gym and 20 minuts later he was asking me to go out and eat with him...ok that seems innocent i guess. But then he would tell me little remarks like, "are you always like this!!" and I replied with what? and he goes, "always like falling assleep" I replied, I'm real mellow and I'm tired from working out for a whole hour. And then he calls me a "baby" and kinda gives me the impression he's cocky and perhaps puts woman down to make himself superior. I am not sure. I mean, these are little clues from the first time I met him, but I am not sure if he would be good to date. I told my brother he seemed pretty annoying and pushy, and he stated that "my personal trainer" crush was a man who thought highly of himself and didn't belive in trying too hard to get woman in bed. I don't know if I should continue talking to this man. I am not looking for anything serious but I am also not willing to sleep with a man who will perhaps later degrade me in any way. I am not sure if I should jump back in the pool and date again or give myself more time. If anyone has suggestions on this, tell me please! thank you much :)
love,
sandra

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Registered: 02-05-2005
Sat, 01-07-2006 - 3:06pm
hugs and hi to cheshire.
I too am taking a break...since september 2004. i admit single life is great when u learn to listen to your own self. I plan on taking a date break for at least a year. then attempt once or twice and see how it goes. After the stuff i experienced i totally need ME TIME. How many others out there are already a part of the DATE BREAK CLUB as Chesire and i am? rofl, Date Break club? where do i come up with these titles..rofl.
well, i guess its better than X-wives club, which i am also a member of. teehee.
have a great day chesire.

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