is it pointless?

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Registered: 12-10-2006
is it pointless?
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 11:32pm
I posted a while back about this guy I was eying in the gym (who I still haven't even said hello to yet- ridiculous, I know) , and since then I read that book "He's just not that into you." I got the message that if a guy is interested, he will ask you out, and there was actually a whole chapter about why women shouldn't do the asking. So I'm thinking that if there was any interest on his part, he would have expressed that by now. Am i just making excuses for myself, or would it really be pointless to approach him at this point?
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In reply to: verona08
Sat, 03-17-2007 - 10:41am

I think that you have to put yourself on his radar first and then decide if you think he's interested.

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Registered: 03-18-2007
In reply to: verona08
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 6:18pm
Most guys out there will definitely initiate the communication, but there are some others who are still shy and wait for a sign or a step forward from the girls. Only then, they will get out of their shell and do what they should have done long ago. I know this model-like guy who only talks and dates average girls because of the fear of rejection. The actions sometimes dont relate to feelings at all. So go talk to him, even a simple "hi" would do and then let the rest of the relation grow. Here is a link you might find interesting. And keep in mind that books and articles can only help you so much, you need to figure out the rest on your own. Trial and error has seemed to work the best for me.
http://www.girlsaskguys.com/Dating-articles/Why-Hasnt-He-Called/?1e9c7cf326ca0da9
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Registered: 12-10-2006
In reply to: verona08
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 8:37pm
thank you both for the advice! ill pack my excuses away and at least say hi, and see what happens from there