is it really gods will...

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is it really gods will...
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Sat, 12-16-2006 - 3:08am

is it really gods will for any of us to be single
i have heard it a 1000 times that its the alleged will of god that some stay single and some get married
is this really true

also alot of people say there is someone out there for everyone
ok
why is it that i dont hear this from poeple who dont have anyone at the moment or who havve never had anyone
i personally dont think there is someone out there for everyone

i myself am 31 never had a bf
never been on a date
never kissed a guy
cant have kids
hmm
nothing points to me ever getting married

is it just me or are you sick and tired of people telling you the redundant thing
you havent met the right person or the right person hasnt come along
ok what exactly does that mean
and also why cant someone say somthing new and original
not something so redundant and unoriginal

but who is anyone to say what gods will is or isnt

i dont believe i will ever get married of have a family
i dont wish for it
becuase i know it will never happen
i save myself all the hurt and future let down by not hoping
prayers dont get answered
and wishes dont come true

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Sat, 12-16-2006 - 10:56am

You may get married, but honestly it wouldn't be to someone who had a healthy outlook on life.

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Sat, 12-16-2006 - 5:55pm

Don't be so hard on yourself. This coming from a die hard pessimist: try your best to look at the positive things. I know it's hard for those like us (I actually have no idea if you are a pessimist, optimist or communist, tee-hee) but you have to try!

If you feel down on yourself like this a lot, you may benefit from seeing a doctor, maybe even meds. I am currently on them for the first time in my life and they seem to be helping. Meds alone won't make your life like a scene out of The Sound Of Music though. It takes work.

I can't stay hold up in my house all day and complain about being bored, lonely, etc. which, I do tend to do from time to time ; ) I have to get out and engage. That can mean with friends, nature, family, art, sport, hobbies, food, it can be anything.

Another great way to snap out of these moods is to DO FOR OTHERS. It really is a great way to fill in the gaps. Great for you and great for the person on the receiving end!

Good luck to you.

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Sat, 12-16-2006 - 6:49pm
I think it's more like OUR will. We were given free-will. Otherwise, we would be mindless puppets having babies and working for the lord. Nuh-uh. Doesn't work that way.
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Sat, 12-16-2006 - 11:31pm

no its not my will to be single
i cant have kids so i wouldnt be a puppet having babies
so yet again its not my will

but at the same time i dont want to be married to
someone i dont want
never asked for
never prayed for
never waited for
it would be getting divoced before you say i do

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Sun, 12-17-2006 - 3:33am
It doesn't have a be your will. Remember, someone else's will can always screw it up for the rest of us.
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Sun, 12-17-2006 - 11:17am

But it IS your will to have the attitude towards life that you do.

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Sun, 12-17-2006 - 11:54am

Okay so you can't have children. Do you know that there thousands upon thousands of kids in the US alone that have no home and want to be adopted???

If you wanted children you certainly could make a HUGE difference in a child life in a positive way by adopting one or more. http://www.adoptuskids.org/

If you want to be married to someone that shares your interests than go out and meet people, do your hair, makeup, put on some nice clothes and don't go into it with a bad attitude because nobody likes negative nancy's it's unattractive and draining on the psyche. I've been around people who always are negative, I have a friend that is and I'm emotionally spent just spending one day with her shopping and having lunch. I can't imagine trying to date her if I was a guy.

I highly doubt there is an omnipotent being that is just moving us all around on a chess board and giving some of us people to date and others not.




Edited 12/17/2006 11:55 am ET by lovinhockey17

Smile,

Deirdre

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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 5:15am
thank god thats just your opinion
you obviously dont know your bible
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 5:22am

thats your opinion
you dont know my future from my past
life has never been a deck a cards
whos the dealer
god?
who are you to say whats in my alleged deck
no one has been dealt a deck a cards
be real
dont resside and hide behind cliches and sterepical phrases
my problem is that i care about what peopld i dont know have to say
maybe thats my news year reslotuion
to not give a f+++ what anybody else says
especially people who i dont know who doesnt have my my best interests at heart

unless youre 31
never been married
never been on a date
dont have a reproductive system
cant have kids
dont tell me what or what not the wallow in thanks
dont tell me what to feel
my biggest pet peeve is someone i dont know telling me how i allegedly feel

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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 5:26am

ok stop pressuring me to be a sinlge parent
hmm who in their right mind would give a single woman with no job a kid
wow even i am not that stupid

who the hell is nancy
hmm i feel what i feel
also i am not going to meet people thank you
i am not going to fix my hair go to a bar a pick up a potential rapist and absuer
if i wanted to be raped i would go to any bar after 10 on a friday or saturday
ill pass
i have nothing in common with people who drink
i was a party and i saw what it did to them
um it was jekyl and hyde
umm
no thanks

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