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| Sat, 12-16-2006 - 3:08am |
is it really gods will for any of us to be single
i have heard it a 1000 times that its the alleged will of god that some stay single and some get married
is this really true
also alot of people say there is someone out there for everyone
ok
why is it that i dont hear this from poeple who dont have anyone at the moment or who havve never had anyone
i personally dont think there is someone out there for everyone
i myself am 31 never had a bf
never been on a date
never kissed a guy
cant have kids
hmm
nothing points to me ever getting married
is it just me or are you sick and tired of people telling you the redundant thing
you havent met the right person or the right person hasnt come along
ok what exactly does that mean
and also why cant someone say somthing new and original
not something so redundant and unoriginal
but who is anyone to say what gods will is or isnt
i dont believe i will ever get married of have a family
i dont wish for it
becuase i know it will never happen
i save myself all the hurt and future let down by not hoping
prayers dont get answered
and wishes dont come true

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You can feel whatever you want.
Um...it was just a joke.
I don't know what God's will is. Nobody does. Asking a question like that isn't going to get a real answer. Part of being human is always being confused.
"who the hell is nancy" -- LMAO!!! That's not directed at you, lovinhockey. Kat, that is just a phrase "Negative Nancy" there isn't really such a person. Maybe you knew that already, I was just making sure.
Are you religious? I assumed so b/c of all the God and bible "speak". Then I was confused when I saw your post to shy: "to not give a f+++ what anybody else says". Just curious.
Dear kat,
I have been thinking like you. My prayers for love have not been answered. My wishes for love have not come true. I have hoped for signs, something positive but no light at the end of the tunnel. I gave up hope too. Sad, isn't it. I'm not ugly. I'm attractive, thin, have a great education and career. Haven't had a bf for 12 yrs and that bf (my first) I had was a big mistake. Since then I had one LT off/on RS and that was 8 yrs ago (2nd big mistake). Other than that, lots of dates and no real RS. So, I haven't experienced love either even if for a short time.
And it wasn't like I've always been negative but it's hard to keep on believing when you haven't seen any result. I used to believe I would find love or it would find me b/c other things in my life progressed normally so I thought love would too. I used to think I was so amazing, why wouldn't any guy not want me? Well, guess what, no guys (I would want) want me.
This is my big question to the universe/God too. The premise is God/universe will give you something if it's your soul's true desire. If my soul's true desire is to be part of a couple and that I wouldn't feel happy otherwise (I haven't been- I've made the best of the situation but deep down I want it) then why is it that after 10 yrs of wanting it, nothing has materialized. Makes me think of karma, perhaps in a previous life, I broke a lot of hearts. NOw I'm being punished. If you believe in the Christian God then maybe God just randomly decided certain people will not marry.
Deep down though I still have a glimmer of hope however, reality is very bleak and I don't know how it's going to happen. I started a couple of days ago to say positive affirmations b/c I guess it doesn't hurt.
I would say get out of that mindset.
Do you think a God punishes good people with Cancer? What about innocent children that die of diseases such as cancer? what did they ever do in life to deserve to be punished with cancer and death???
God/Universe does not punish people. If you want it, go out and get it.
Smile,
Deirdre
Hi Kat_xk8
I posted you a message on "Sick of being Single"... then I came across another post here along exactly the same lines.
I thought it might be worth a mention that I am not speaking from a soap box, but from experience. In therapy since I was 13... you name it I've done it, including some serious medications.
The one thing that has always gotten me up off the floor is one simply question: Do you want to be a victim or a victor?
I reached a point where I was tired of being a victim, of self pity and self deprecation, I chose to be a victor of my own life and my own situation.
Every day you make a choice. Choose wisely. And choose for you!
i am so APPALLED...
Never Been Kissed-type? I personally think that it's not UP to God to make our decisions of whether we want to look for our spouse/ significant other. Sometimes, you might just be too picky ((like myself)), but then again... you kinda have to be, these days. So, my answer is "no," I don't think God has made the official plan for your marital status... But, if you find your Bachelor and willing to work through the harships in a trouble relationship... then maybe that will develop into a healthy, stable, respected and monagamous lifetime partner?
Best of luck.
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