It's good to be Single!!!

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Registered: 06-30-2003
It's good to be Single!!!
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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 7:55pm
I recently found myself single after an 8 year relationship, a broken engagement and a messy split - It was downright dirty, mean and nasty. That was almost 3 months ago now and I was completely devastated at first. But now I have to admit that it's not as bad being single as I was afraid. I'm actually really enjoying my freedom right now and I'm coming to realize that being single isn't lonely or depressing.

I have suddenly found all my guy friends who I could never just hang out with because of my jealous ex. Suddenly, there's a party every weekend (Friday and Saturday) and plenty of things to do after work. All my friendships are suddenly thriving again and I'm having a blast hitting the clubs with my friends (girls and guys) on the weekends and just going out and hanging out. I didn't realize how restricted I had been in my relationship. I am meeting so many people and discovering that there's a whole world out there besides just being in a relationship. Sure, it's great to have someone to love and come home to at the end of the day. But I'm really realizing that there is so much more to life. I can already list so many things that I have done in the past couple of months that would have never happened if I had still been with the ex such as my wild weekend in Vegas last week.

I just wanted to share my feelings with people because I'm really surprised at myself. Six months ago I couldn't imagine my life without my fiancee and soon-to-be hubby. Now, I'm soooooooo happy that we didn't end up together - it would have been a big mistake. And I realize that I am so much happier being SINGLE!!!

Any others out there who are having a good time being single?


Edited 7/11/2003 7:57:42 PM ET by natalie19772003

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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 8:47pm
I'm glad to hear that you're doing so well. That was a long relationship, but I'm glad you're not dwelling on what could have been. Enjoy being single and spending time with your friends. Sounds like you deserve it after 8 years with someone who was so jealous of your guy friends.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-12-2003 - 12:20am
I have always enjoyed being single- mostly - and if it weren't for the bio clock - I am turning 37 - I would be more relaxed about getting married. I do like parties, etc but I get to do all of that when I have a bf - I make sure of that - I never found being part of a couple restrictive.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-12-2003 - 2:28pm
I have realized how great it is to be going out w/friends and not get that phone call asking where I was and who I was talking to. I've met a few guys recently and it's great being able to talk to them w/no strings attached! So while being with my ex was great - having that one person to go home to every night. I enjoy being able to live my life w/out having to worry about the impact my decisions will have on my ex and our relationship.
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Registered: 07-14-2003
Mon, 07-14-2003 - 12:41pm
I am enjoying being single, I'm 22 and broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half 2 months ago, he was so great, but I wanted to be on my own again. I am so thrilled to have reclaimed my time, that and I just had SO much fun seducing some guy which went exactly as planned, (that's the only problem with being single I get into trouble too often...)
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Registered: 06-19-2003
Mon, 07-14-2003 - 2:31pm
Anyone who's ever been in a truly awful domestic situation can appreciate the joys of living single.

I was single til I married, for the first time, at age 47. That endeavor ended 15 mos later (see my post to "Non-Date" for THAT saga), but when I became single again, I realized how great my own companionship can be. Actually, I knew it before marrying--I'd been single for so long--but it took a terrible encounter to make me embrace that lifestyle again.

Not that I'd refuse companionship; on the contrary, I look forward to the adventure of finding my social life again. But for now, while I nurse my wounds (and decorate my new home--I'm so unbelievably happy there, no one can imagine it), I enjoy the pleasure and solace of my own company.

You can either be BY yourself or WITH yourself. How you see the show depends on where you sit.

Ash

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Tue, 07-15-2003 - 9:52am
Being single just got even better, as seducing this guy at my summer job is all going according to plan....
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Registered: 07-15-2003
Wed, 07-16-2003 - 5:00pm
its all fun and games until someone gets preganent thats what my mom dianne says (o by the way im on her account).well i am just 20 but 3 of my friends, ages 17,16,19 (close friends) have gottin pregnant and there sons and daughters were not theres because two of them had to put them up to adoption and the other is living with her parents. so all im saying is enjoy single life but also be cautious!

lidia

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Fri, 07-18-2003 - 6:38am
I need to figure out how to seduce someone. Any ideas, sweetcherrypie? :-)

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