it's that time of year...

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Registered: 08-03-2005
it's that time of year...
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Mon, 07-17-2006 - 1:06pm

so excatly 3 years ago, my ex of 4 years broke up with me. totally expected on the phone from another state...he would not see me to discuss anything. Just said he wasnt happy with how things were and didnt want to marry me. We continued to speak though and still do from time to time. Oh we were engaged...had actually spoken to the priest about a week and a half before

So I dont know if it's mental or subconcious, but every year around this time since then, I have just felt really awful. Sure i have felt awful at other times about it, but there's something about this time of year that seems so empty to me. It's upsetting because my bday is in about a week and a half, it's summer time, althought it's about 95 degrees it's still really nice out...but i still feel really yucky right now...I dont want to feel this way. I want to enjoy my life, the summer...but i'm always reminded of that event around this time.

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Mon, 07-17-2006 - 4:08pm

It's amazing how long heartbreak can stay with us, especially when it's unresolved. I still get a little funny certain times of the year about my ex who I broke up with a few years ago. I think it sticks with us because it's unresolved, because we didn't have the questions answered that we needed to. You're probably in the same situation as me, that those questions will never be answered. I did some counseling for a while and we touched on this a bit, but then I lost my job and had to move, she was such a great therapist.

If you can swing in financially (insurance) think about talking to someone to help you delve into why after so many years it still makes you blue. I think that sometimes there are people that leave our lives that we never really 'get over' completely.

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Registered: 08-03-2005
Mon, 07-17-2006 - 4:17pm
i do actually talk to someone...i hadnt seen her in a year, but recently started seeing her again