It's Wedding Season

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Registered: 03-20-2003
It's Wedding Season
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Sun, 06-29-2003 - 11:37pm
How do you feel about going to weddings? Do you avoid them? Does it matter if you have a date or not?

What about your own future wedding? Do you think about what it will be like? Is it big or small? Do you have some details worked out? Or maybe you think it's silly to think about these things without a ring on your finger!

Opinions everyone?

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Registered: 06-22-2003
Sun, 06-29-2003 - 11:47pm
seeing people that are truly happy together at weddings makes me realize that someday I could find someone that makes me truly happy... and that it's worth the wait not to settle for anything less! I personally don't think going dateless is a big deal, but that's me.

As for planning, I don't have anything planned out yet, even just for the fun of it. I can't imagine what it would be like to have a wedding and get married... but that's okay with me for now.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 06-30-2003 - 12:27am
I like weddings, especially the receptions. However, I have never gone alone and guess I am too much of a chicken to go alone. I have skipped out on two weddings now because of having to go alone. However, neither of these people were good friends.

As for my own wedding....I don't have a whole lot planned, but my best friend getting married next year, that has caused me to start thinking of mine a little bit. Problem is, I need to find that man first!

It's been too long with no man!

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Registered: 06-26-2003
Mon, 06-30-2003 - 7:21am
I don't mind going to weddings.. Depending on whose wedding it is, I would go dateless. (Always a good place to meet new men!)

As for my wedding.. I dont see myself have a HUGE wedding.. Just close friends and family.. I still want my "dream dress" though.. I am wanting to have an outdoor wedding.. wild flowers.. very natural setting... I have a few things planned out.. just need the man to help me with the rest :)

Good question!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-30-2003 - 11:12am
I prefer to go to a wedding with a date but am happy to go on my own - I meet people so easily and love doing the circle dances at a Jewish wedding. For my own wedding - it will depend on my future husband - my preference is small and elegant and tasteful so that I don't blow too much of my savings and can put that towards my real dream - to be a stay at home mom for at least a year or more - probably more. I plan at this point to pay for my own wedding with my fiancee - if my parents or his want to give us $$ towards a honeymoon or a nice wedding gift that's fine but I am turning 37, have substantially more savings than my family, and more income and it seems inane to ask them at this point to make any sort of substantial contribution.
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Mon, 06-30-2003 - 12:48pm
Well, I have to admit that I don't like weddings. Especially weddings where I have to go alone. I love receptions as long as they are fun receptions. The last one I went to was boring.

I know that I don't want a huge wedding, nor do I want a big deal made out of the ceremony. The reception, however, will be a different story. It'll be a party, whether my mother likes it or not!

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Mon, 06-30-2003 - 1:30pm
I'm not a huge fan of weddings, but I'll go to them, regardless of whether I have a date or not. I'm there to support the married couple and show my love for them, not display myself as the catch of the day! The only weddings I've gone to so far are for my family memebrs anyway, and it'd be kinda weird to hook up with someone when my dad's sitting at the next table, ya know? =)

Planing my wedding... I refuse to think about it until I meet someone who I actually want to marry, 'casue it's gonna be HIS wedding too!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-30-2003 - 1:30pm
I don't like going to weddings without a date unless I know there will be other people I know there without dates. It gets too uncomfortable otherwise. I don't mind going to weddings, as long as there local. I won't spend a lot of money to get to a wedding unless it's a really close friend of mine.

I've never really been the type to plan out my own wedding. At the rate things are going, I'm not so sure I'll ever get to that point. But, if I do, I don't want a huge wedding where you're obligated to invite everyone that's even remotely related to you. But, before I worry about that, I think I actually need to meet the guy first.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-30-2003 - 6:41pm
I'm really conflicted about weddings. I either really like or really dislike them. Sometimes, I am the source of the party and that I don't like. Everyone teasing me about my dancing - and how much energy I have. But I find the speeches and stuff so touching, I love it. And when cousins get married, I always meet relatives I've forgotten I even had. There is nothing better than saying, I like that Wendy, she's a riot...and finding out she's your cousin...lol..

As to my wedding, all I dream of is the guy. If I can find him, I will be so happy, I won't care where or when. However it happens, I'm sure it'll be the happiest day of my life.

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