The iVillage Dating Advice Slideshow

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Registered: 02-26-2011
The iVillage Dating Advice Slideshow
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 11:59pm

Did you also see the dating advice slide show?

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Registered: 06-03-2009
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 1:31am
I like the one about never accepting a last minute date. I think in general you shouldn't, but for a special circumstance like concert tickets that night? It's totally ok to "adjust" your empty schedule to see him if you want to.
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 6:28am

Bascially, I agree. I think attraction happens pretty quickly, so if you're not feeling something fairly soon, I'll wager it won't happen. My guideline is this: if I go out with a guy and I know I don't want to see him again, I won't go out a second time. If, however, I liked him and looked forward to talking with him again, even if there were no fireworks, I'd go out again to see if anything developed. If after a third date nothing is happening physically for me (or for him), I consider us friends.

I do think there are exceptions to this though. I read a post on these boards several years ago by a woman who became friends with a guy. It sounded like a really beautiful friendship, and they went on this way for like a year and a half. I'm not sure why her feelings changed after that time, but they did, and they became a very happy couple.

And I've read many stories of married couples that hated each other when they first met. But again, I think these stories are the exceptions.

The iVillage advice sounds like the old saw, "You don't give a guy a chance" and "It's more important that he likes you than you like him."

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 11:28am

For those who didn't see the article, I just wanted to chime in with the link.


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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 1:05pm

Yes, Florida!

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 1:06pm

Hey Tasha!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 3:11pm

I think there are degrees.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 6:17pm
I'm like music- if I'm just meh about him, I'd probably give him a second chance. If he repulses me, I'm done. There don't necessarily have to be fireworks to be a second date.

And if we're giving feedback, I hate slideshows. If its a slideshow, there's a very slim chance I'll click. They take too long and there are too many clicks. Put it all on one page. I don't need a picture to go with every point.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 8:26pm
I will usually give a guy a second chance because I myself can be quite shy and awkward on first dates. If I wasn't bowled over, I try to chalk it up to nerves and wait to make the call after date No. 2.
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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 9:27pm

As you can guess, I am rarely nervous* and never shy, so under-performing a first date says to me that a man isn't my social equal and won't be able to handle the very high velocity life I live, which requires meeting and interacting with many powerful prominent or renowned people on a daily basis.

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Registered: 09-05-1998
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 10:30pm

I'm just ready to give up on dating local men-mainly because no one is interested. Or if they are, they sure aren't saying anything.. Online i just have no idea anymore, i'm reall tired of oversexed boring older men pestering me after I say no, I'm not interested.I don't like bad boys, but they like me for some odd reason. The men I do like have either just lost interest, left me or were liars and/or cheaters. The one nice guy I like I think I either scared away or something else is going on I don't know about. I'm tired of all the nonsense, I just want someone I can love who loves me the same as I Iove him. To paraphrase a Michael Buble' song, I just haven't found that yet. And yeah, it stinks...