Jerk Until the Right Women Comes Along?
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| Tue, 05-23-2006 - 8:49am |
I've met a really sweet, kind guy that I am currently dating and I was thinking 'Gee, how come there aren't more like him?'. But that made me question, are there really so many as*holes out there or are some guys sweet, kind and considerate to the right women? I just have a hard time believing that so many guys can be such jerks.
So that got me thinking perhaps the guys that are usually labeled as*holes, ya know, the ones that don't return calls, stand you up, only want sex or are all around disrespectful and rude are this way because they just haven't met the woman that has really made them go 'Wow! I've got to get this one.' Or the one that makes them want to be a good man.
Now of course some men are just going to be like that regardless but maybe for some men they are just that way until something makes them want to change.
Thoughts??

Nah, I don't think people change who they are, fundamentally...they just find someone who will put up with their particular brand of jerkiness.
Sheri
Forgive me 10000 times but I could not help myself - there it is again, 'flaky' vs 'not into' argument.
A man for whom you are the right woman and person and who genuienly wants you (not only sexually)and is the right man and person for you will not 'not phone' or stand you up. If I find myself in any kind of liaison with someone whom I 'allow' to 'not phone me and stand me up' and then rant and rave about what an a*****e he is..well, I'm beyond stupid. Been there, done that, never ever again. He is not to blame for not being into me.. I am however to blame for being blind or in denial enough not to see it.
Serious personality flaws (rudeness, lying, abuse etc) and women who choose to tolerate it are a different matter alltogether and I won't go into this here.
Well, what you're saying in your final paragraph is what I'm talking about (women who will tolerate jerky behavior). Only such a woman would be "right" for a jerk...but there are a lot of those women out there, unfortunately!
Sheri
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snork.
Explains why *I'm* single.