Just an excuse?

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Registered: 05-19-2006
Just an excuse?
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 5:33pm

Ok, there is a guy I have a crush on and we have hung out together to get coffee and we always end up talking for over 2 hours or so. He's pretty shy so I figured I've have to make the first move. I had tickets to a baseball game and invited him. We went and had a good time. He paid for my drinks so I was kind of wondering if that was a date.

But anyway I had asked him to go to a movie and we had made plans to go last night. I was supposed to call him after work and I did and he asked if we could postpone it. He had tried to call my cell phone but it was dead. He said he'd had a long day and was just really tired and was afraid if he went to the movie, he'd just fall asleep. We didn't really decide on another day to go but we threw out a few other days that were good for both of us.

I just wonder, have any of you heard that from a guy before? I was a little disappointed because I just felt like maybe it was an excuse and he that even if he was tired, if he liked me he'd still want to see me. But I might just be being overly negative. I don't know.

And I don't really know what we are. The baseball game felt like a date but nothing has really changed. I just don't know if he likes me as a friend or more.

Sorry this was so long!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 7:03pm

It does sound like an excuse.

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 7:42pm

Yeah unfortunately I agree. "I'm just so tired," is 9 times out of 10 an excuse. And even if he were too tired to go out, he'd darn well make sure he set something up for another time.

Remember: when a guy likes you, he'll MAKE SURE you know.

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Registered: 04-25-2005
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 10:49pm
Hey! I was in the same boat a few weeks ago... except a mutal friend set us up and we hit it off! I asked him to a movie,he said yes, the nite came I called him and no answer, TXT msg him no answer. The next day he called me "his phone broke" then I asked him to a baseball game and he said yea three days before he cancelled on me. I have to much to do this week he said. So, ur not the only one honey. Guys can be real asses but grin and bear ur gunna find that one guy that cant wait to be with! Promise!!!! Good Luck