Just a few requests...

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Just a few requests...
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Fri, 02-03-2006 - 9:45am

Due to a little run of first date BAD luck lately, I have a few requests to the guys out there.

(Please take with a grain of salt- some women may not share my opinion.)

When dating or wanting to date a woman:

1. Please don't assume we're desperate. Recently I've actually heard this line: "Come on, I'm the best thing you've got going right now anyway, right?"

2. Don't call me 'young lady', ever. Seriously, are you my grandfather?

3. Don't flirt with the waitress on our first date.

4. Don't drink enough to sink a ship on our first date.

5. Along the lines of request #1, please don't assume that without you, I'd be sitting at home watching movies with my cat. Do assume that, in some cases, this is better than being out with you. Afterall, the cat doesn't try to grope me when he's three sheets to the wind.

6. Don't insult me for being 26. Saying I'm "too young to understand" doesn't make me want you more!

7. Don't belittle my job because you don't understand it. Guys, no matter how much a woman may hate her current occupation, she's there by choice and telling her she's made the wrong choice on the first date is NOT a turn on.

8. Finally, possibly the most important of all, don't say a word about my weight. Fine, I'm not the size 2 you want, that's ok. I am, however, a darn good size 8 and suggesting our next date be at the gym is just wrong. It makes me want to eat two meals, order a whole bottle of wine and stick you with the check when I "go to the restroom" but really leave the restaurant.

Just a few requests, I hope you can understand.

If this generates a list of "what not to do on a date if you're a woman", I can appreciate that, too.

Happy Friday!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 10:29am
Oh my god! Did this really happen?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:45am
Chin up, Lesley! Sorry you've encountered some losers recently, but I hope it gets better!

AJ, enjoying life with C.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 2:13pm

*Oh my god! Did this really happen?*

Sadly, yes.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 2:14pm
It's ok, it will be fine. It's gone from traumatic and unblieveable to comedic and entertaining.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 2:22pm
Seeing the humor in a situation definitely can help - sorry you had to go through that at all, though. What a jerk!

AJ, enjoying life with C.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2005
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 6:31pm
lmao!!! Love it. I can totally relate to all but the last one (as no one's ever asked me out to dinner on a date I can't comment). #5 is sooooo true~
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 6:51pm

This list should be advertised during the Superbowl.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 6:56am
Oh man. There is a fine example of why some guys are still single.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 9:34am

*This list should be advertised during the Superbowl.*

That's hilarious!

And I agree with your other point of expecting women to be women. I happen to enjoy many sports and watching them, but don't act surprised when I don't sit down and cry with you when the Red Sox lose. (And yes, it turns out there IS crying in baseball.) :-)

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 10:20am
Oh my gosh, was this all on ONE date with the same person????
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