Just friends

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Just friends
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 10:02pm

I've posted a few times about the guy I've been "dating" for over a month and wondering why he hasn't kissed me yet. Well, I got my answer tonight. Apparently he hasn't kissed me yet because he DOESN'T WANT TO!!! Ha! We were talking on the phone and making plans for the weekend and he offered for me to stay with him all weekend because we live an hour away from each other and we have a lot of church stuff and other things going on all weekend. I told him I didn't know if I'd be able to make it out to his house tonight, since I had so much stuff to do, but I'd call him later and let him know.

Well, when I called he reiterated that he would be a perfect gentleman and he would give me the bed and he'd take the couch. Then he dropped the bomb: "We're just friends, so it's not like I'm going to hit on you or anything."

I feel like such an idiot. In a way I'm kinda glad, because I don't really want another relationship and he's been a great friend so far. But I feel dumb. Really dumb!!! Ah well, at least the pressure is off now, right? And now I'm free to date the other guy I've had my eye on.

Oh, and in light of all this I decided to stay home tonight and do girl things. It's a good feeling to have that freedom and not feel like I have to shift my life around for a guy.

This could be a good thing, right?? And, who knows? He may end up having no choice but to fall in love with me anyway. LOL. :)

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 3:16pm

I grew up in a conservative church, and a southern one at that ... I remained a member until I was in my early twenties. When I read your post, I noticed the word church mentioned and I started thinking about all of the men who went to church with me before I left. I had a hard time imagining myself hooking up with one of them, LOL. It wasn't about looks, money, just their mindset(s). Gag. LOL. I'm sure your church is much more progressive hence there are probably more date-able guys around. Mine was very different! Don't get me wrong, it wasn't a bible beater or holly roller church, just very conservative, almost backwards as it's doctrine applied to the 20th century.

I'm glad "his" attitude has turned around for the better. You cracked me up with your "scoring". Ha-ha! For that reason, I hope things work out : )

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