Just Irritated!

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Just Irritated!
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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 4:59pm

I am having one of those days. I am not sure why because it is sunny and near 80 degrees here in Chicago today. But I need to vent, because if I don't, I am affraid that my bad mood will get the better of me today. So an old friend (we're not friends anymore because I broke the friendship off for numerous reasons) is getting married. She is not a part of my life anymore, but for some reason, I am bothered by it. Probably because everyone else is either married or getting married, except for me. I don't want to get married just to have a wedding and a shower and all the great gifts that go along with it. I want to find my partner in life. Where is he?? Here is the five year old in me that still exists and she is screaming....."WHEN IS IT MY TURN!!!" I am hoping you can see the kicking and screaming, too!

It just bothers me, because I saw these married girls sabotage their dating lives back in the day. Dating the wrong men, jerks etc... Yet, they still found thier husbands some how. I know this is stupid to get upset about and I know you all feel my pain, but ARRGGGG!!!!!!

Thanks for listening. There, I feel slightly better :)

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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: kcole68
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 6:53pm
Sometimes a good vent is just what we all need. I KNOW I've had those moments, and I'm sure most of us here have. It doesn't seem fair, but I believe your blessings will come in due time. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kcole68
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 6:57pm

I totally hear ya...I'm so bad lately that I even get irritated that totally messed up characters on TV shows have relationships and I don't, LOL! Yes, I know it's fiction, etc...but it's still annoying as hell ;-).

Hang in there...

Sheri

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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: kcole68
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 8:50am
Oh, we all have those days. But think of it this way - maybe her fiance is a loser. :)
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Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: kcole68
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 1:29pm

OMG Sheri - I do the same thing!

I get so annoyed when I see an "undeserving" character find love. LOL

Then I get annoyed because I actually have to remind myself it's not real!


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Registered: 09-10-2004
In reply to: kcole68
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 1:53pm
Finding the right guy for yourself is plain too hard. I haven't really started and I'm 24 but I'm always thinking about it. Part of it is my fault though because I'm not that settled since I move a lot with my company. It's going to come up and bite me in the ass one day.
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Registered: 09-27-2004
In reply to: kcole68
Sat, 04-15-2006 - 8:02pm
I do have those days. Especially when i get emails from friend saying so and so is getting married or pictures of babies etc etc. even when I see announcements of marriages on other boards that I post on. But I guess what I keep trying to tell myself is that it's just not my time yet for whatever reason. I think I need to do more growing, become more self confident and stronger in the meantime. I believe that god has a plan for all of us and puts that right person for us in our pathway at different times in our lives. I also know what you mean about seeing people who are just not very nice people in general get married and you wonder if they can find love why can't I. Arrrggg, very frustrating sometimes.
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Registered: 07-27-2005
In reply to: kcole68
Sat, 04-15-2006 - 9:18pm
I agree with all of you. I just got together with a "just married" friend, and I thought.. come on she doesn't even have her own opinion on things, and yet she's married. But then I think about how they're actually not "ready" to be married. She's still looking for a job, he just started his job. Then I realized, if the perfect guy come right now and do the whole nine yards to get married so soon, I'd back out too. However, it is nice to have someone to share life in the mean time :)