just not that into me?

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Registered: 12-09-2003
just not that into me?
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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 3:21am
So there's this guy that I met a while ago but never saw him again until this weekend. We got put at the same table at a carnival/fund raiser. We talked a bit and laughed and I left it alone. Then I saw him at a friend's party. We danced and he seemed to be really enjoying it (but I'm not sure if it was the music or the fact that he was dancing with me). Seeing him at the party made me pull out all the stops and I was doing my best to flirt, although I don't know how good I am at it. Sometimes he seemed to respond with flirting, while other times he was kinda neutral. I was thinking that maybe "he's just not that into me." I've only been around him a few times, so I thought I'd ask on here. Is it supposed to be an instant click and therefore he's not that into me, or is it a matter of not giving it enough time?
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 6:51am

I think sometimes it's an instant click, but sometimes it takes time. I think it's kind of cool that you keep running into him. My first thought is that perhaps he's still involved with someone else. But he is coming to these events alone, so perhaps that's not it. But I wouldn't assume he's just not that into you.

I'm sure you did just fine with your flirting. You are signaling that you are interested, so all he has to do now is ask you out. I'm a real believer in letting the man make the move, especially when you have given him ample encouragement. He may be a little shy and it's taking him awhile to build up his courage. Good luck!

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Registered: 06-08-2006
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 9:22am

It could go either way, but a sure fire sign that he is into you will be if he asks for your number or asks you out on a date. You might even be proactive next time you see him and ask out for coffee sometime. I have found that sometimes a woman can flirt her butt off and a guy can still be a little oblivious!

Good luck,

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Registered: 12-09-2003
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 8:48pm
Thanks ladies, this helped clarify things! Guys can be confusing...