The KEY to attracting females?

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Registered: 04-13-2006
The KEY to attracting females?
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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 5:18am

I have always kept in shape and been somewhat athletic and had an average build. I work out to try to get women to like me and I work out a lot but I am not what I want to be.

My friend, who since high school has always been a Vin Disel type of guy with huge muscles, he has never had a problem getting women's attention. When we played football together in high school he got introduced to steriods. He has taken them ever since and I only recently found out about this but I must say I have always envied him and how women adore him.

I recently asked him casually how he gets the stuff and he woudlnt tell me. I told him I was interested in trying it to see how if they helped and he said if I was sure I wanted to try it he would get me something and I could pay him.

I am seriously considering this...I think it could help me with my self esteem problems. If I did this and became more attractive I wouldnt have problems with my confidence anymore so I think it might be a good idea.

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 7:39am

I don't like guys with big muscles.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 7:41am
I think only really superficial women are attracted to a guy because of his muscles. So if that is the kind of woman you want to attract go for it. Of course, first you should do some research on all the ways steroids will harm your body. Good luck with your situation. Iri
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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 8:21am

You do realize the damage that steroids do to your body, right? A few being that they shrink your genitalia, give you zits and attribute to "roid rage."

What SORT of women are attracted to your friend? Sounds like pretty shallow girls - and I do mean "girls." I'll tell you - most women don't care much about muscles. A lean look, maybe. Fit and all that but muscular like a builder - it's too much. Not attractive in the least.

I think you're not seeing the entire picture. It sounds to me like you're really interested in the shallow end of the dating pool. Like another poster said, if that's the sort of woman you really want go for it. But from your previous posts in this subject, it really sounds to me like you need to work on your self-esteem more than your muscles.

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Registered: 03-28-2005
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 8:30am

I'm going to have to agree with the others on this one. And to add to their comments I would find it very unattractive for someone to be taking steroids in the first place.

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 8:51am

First of all, I really think that not calling us females would help. There are nicer words like women.

Secondly, taking steroids is dumb. End of story. They are horrible to your body. What good is it going to do you to land a great woman if you can't have sex with her because the steriods have ruined your sex life?

If you want to work on your confidence, try working on your personality. If you have to, try therapy. But don't take the wimpy quick fix of drugs. I swear, steriods are like the man's eating disorder.

Besides, I think that men with large muscles are gross. Sleek and toned is hot, bulky is not. While some women may like that in a man, there are plenty that don't.




Edited 4/25/2006 8:55 am ET by auntjules
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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 9:32am

I find both Vin Deisel and bulging muscles gross and unappealing.

I don't think you should put any outside junk in your body in the attempt to try and get a girl. If some women doesn't want you because you aren't hulky, then she's not for you and there is someone else better for you.

I say, be yourself and don't go out of your way to try and impress anyway. It's pretty transparent when guys do that anyway.

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 9:37am

No no no no no!

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 12:51pm

I was just considering it as a way to boost my confidence because a big part of my low self esteem comes from the fact that Im not happy with the way I look so I figured it could help me become more attractive psychically which would boost my confidence so it could help my personality as well.

A woman noticing me for my muscles would be a foot in the door is all. Im not looking for women who just want muscles to fondle but it would be a way to get their attention then go from there. Kind of like if a product is not being marketed right and noone is buying it-the company makes a funny comericial to get people to pay attention and possibly buy the product.

The muscles are my advertising lol

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 12:56pm

There are a few issues here and everyone seems to be simplifying them. First, there are a lot of women saying don't take them because they don't like big muscles. They are attracted to men that are fit and firm, but not bulky. Well ladies, steroids can and are used by men to get just that look. If you think some of those hot and sexy guys you see at the beach or on the pages of magazines aren't juiced you are fooling yourself.

Some of the ladies are fooling him when they say it won't help his self-confidence. It most likely will. Not everything we do to improve our appearance is healthy. Ever worked on your tan??? Smoked to keep weight off? When we think we look better we feel better about ourself. Depending on his personality and level of maturity he probably will like himself more. Yes, he is cheating by using steroids. Yes, he is destroying his body, but most guys that use them don't care about that. They want to niceoutside and are willing to sacrifice the inside. Many men get pyschologically addicted to them.

What I find attractive is a fit woman. I try to workout and eat a healthy diet. I would never use steroids. They are illegal and dangerous. I understand the temptation of professional athletes to use them. Their jobs may depend on it, but some guy using them to attract women has a lot of work to do and very little of it has to do with muscles. No emotionally healthy woman will be attracted to you no matter what you look like until you get your head and heart in the right place. Work on them before you start taking pills or shooting-up.

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 1:13pm

I dont think I am going to do it but I still wonder how it might help me so I dont know...

Plus if you read other threads I have a girl who seems interested in me who is an absolute perfect 10 knockout drop dead gorgeous girl so that was swaying me to maybe juicing myself up to help me with her.

Also not all guys to take steriods are bulky, my friend isnt bulky and huge he is big but not huge and he is toned and somewhat lean not a body builder. and he attracts really good looking girls. And he seems to turn all fo them down after a few dates because he is sooooo picky. I wouldnt do that but anyway, I dont know if I am or not, my friend actually tried to tell me not to do it for whatever reason even though he does it.

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