Kid moved home

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Registered: 05-10-2012
Kid moved home
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Wed, 07-25-2012 - 8:53pm

Oh dear lord..my 20yo son just moved home.    I had no idea until the pickup trucks showed up.  

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 8:57pm

Maybe there was a reason he didn't warn you?  lol  At least I knew when my DD was getting out of college.

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Registered: 05-10-2012
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 9:33pm

He didn't warn me because all of my kids know that they can come home anytime....at least I assume that is the reason.

He went to his sister's to spend some time....they are Irish twins and probably tighter than any of my kids

 

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 11:47pm

Oh, Heather!  My 20 y/o daughter reappeared a week ago - she was supposed to be in Europe working until November.  I'm already exhausted, my home is messy, I'm depressed and she's needed a few hundred bucks that disappeared into some black hole somewhere in her life. Ugh!  You have my complete sympathy. 

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 12:50am
My 21 year old sister basic moved home with her 8 month old about a month ago. It could be worse- he could have a baby!!
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 12:01pm

True--I enjoy having my kids home & I actually miss my 23 yr old DD who moved out of state for work.  But their DSS was single & had a baby 3 yrs ago & she & her fiance are finally buying their own house.  My ex said to me that although he likes his DSD and the kid is adorable, he will enjoy having a quiet house.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 4:16pm

Oh; I know how you feel everyone.. My son is going on a vacation next week with his gfriend. He is 32 and I said well do you need extra money?? What a stupid question? I offered them a few weeks ago and they said no.. I was happy and thought oh; good... Now he says can we have the money you offered us.. ggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Now I have to give them the money I promised.

He has been on his own forever and although I care I wouldnt ever want him back to live with me.. I am hoping and praying his gfriend never kicks him out.

Meanwhile I havent been on a vacation since 2008..gggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

 

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Registered: 05-10-2012
Fri, 07-27-2012 - 5:54pm

We've been busy setting him up in the spare room.   Ugh.   Thankfully he works almost FT so he can pay his own car/ins 

But yeah, I am out a few hundred buying new bedding, lights and a new tv.   (I splurged and FINALLY bought a flatscreen for the living room and gave him the fossil for his!!!)   So maybe more than a few hundred $$$ but some was just to treat myself.  

Thanks for the support!  Not that I have been bringing anyone home but I am sort of mourning the fact that I can't anymore.  BOO HOO

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Registered: 05-10-2012
Fri, 07-27-2012 - 5:57pm

Oh I hear you!   My oldest DD, her a**hole boyfriend lived here a few years ago right after my oldest grandbaby was born.   I could handle the baby but  NOT her boyfriend.

Baby or PITA gf/bf....he came home alone.    Praise be!!  It could be worse.  

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 07-28-2012 - 8:49am

That would definitely be a rule for me--kids can come back anytime, but no BFs or GFs.  If they want to live together, they can get their own place.