Kind of a blind-date tonight. eek!

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Kind of a blind-date tonight. eek!
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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 1:27pm
I spoke to this woman who works parttime at my building alst week and we got to talking about me being single. Well, she told me about a single co-worker of hers (that works with her at her full-time job) and well, today she came in and asked if I was up for going out for wings tonight at a local sports bar. Basically a casual setup- a chance for me to meet him (and vice-versa) but with other people around in a more relaxed group environment.
I'm so nervous now!
I don't have a whole lot in common with this woman, so the whole social setting will be a bunch of people I don't know. I did invite a couple friends/coworkers to come out too, just so that I don't show up alone and have a few of my peeps with me.
I'm also coming out right after my regular wednesday night step-class. So egad, i usually look like crap after working out. BUt I plan on bringing some makeup and a change of clothes so that I can do a quick change before I go out.
Any advice on this? I've never done anything like this before. I'm trying to approach it as a "chance to get to enhance my social circle"- so that I'm not coming in there terribly nervous. Besides, it's always nice to meet new people and maybe i'll make some friends too! But anyway, gah, i'm nervous.
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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 1:45pm
My advice to you is don't go into it with any expectations. If you do, you have a higher chance of being disappointed. Try and look at it as a night to hang out with friends. Good Luck!
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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 1:50pm
Be social with everyone, so you won't put too much focus on him. Does he know this is a potential set-up as well? If he doesn't know, then delegate your attention evenly to everyone and just be casual. If he does know, then you two will probably end up talking about the potential set-up. That will be an ice breaker.

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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 1:54pm
Yup, he does know. This is what i guess makes me nervous. I'm just really hoping that we have something in common at least, or that our conversation flows. I'm also nervous that i'll look like or feel like crap, since i'm coming to this thing right after the gym. I hope I can get my hair to behave!
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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 2:23pm
Maybe you should consider not going to step class. Sometimes, there is going back with make up, when trying to cover up sweat..... My suggestion is to have fun and try not to get too nervous. This is the best way to be set up, I feel. You have people you care about around snd so does he. My only thought is to make a conscious effort to actuallyu talk to him and get to know him. When I did this, it was easier and more comfortable to talk with other people than him. Otherwise, have a great time!!!
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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 3:04pm

If you find you have something in common with him, talk about that topic. You can also incorporate your friends in the convo as well. That way, you won't feel the need to fill in all the conversational gaps.

Is there a shower at the gym? I know you won't have time to do your hair and all, but you don't want to arrive smelling like a gym. If it is too precarious, I would skip the gym as the other poster said.

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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 3:28pm
Just go and relax and talk to everyone. Don't worry much about just coming from the gym (I wouldn't skip either), maybe instead of step you can do something less strenuous and still get your workout in. This will also give you less time to stress about it and a place to channel all that stress to. Just relax and be friendly. You are looking at it right if you see it as expanding your cirlce... and don't forget, someone thinks enough of you to set you up with someone else. That's a compliment in itself right there :-)