Ladies, I need to freak out for a moment

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Ladies, I need to freak out for a moment
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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 10:15am

The other night, I had a realization:

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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 10:48am
First of all I'm happy to hear that you are with someone in which there is a mutual liking and feelings starting to develop. It is a very scary thing to be vulnerable especially for us singles that have had several disappointments. I know exactly what you mean about waiting for the other shoe to drop. I've been waiting too for that shoe to drop. Granted you've been with your guy longer and it's probably turning into a more solid thing right now where as I just have to see if this gets past the infatuation phase and turns into something real. Keep at it even through the fear and who knows, you may just have something lasting and long-term here. Good luck to you!
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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 10:54am
That's pretty cool!
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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 11:51am

Yep, online.

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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 2:22pm

Awww, shy's in love ; ) Just kidding. That's great! This is when relationships starting getting comfortable, huh? It's nice to get the nervous conversation, have to look absolutely perfect for dates, does he really like me or not phase behind ya. Good luck with the vulnerability. If you ask me, it's a tricky thing.

"He's out hunting today. I sure hope he doesn't freeze to death or shoot himself."
--Let's hope Cheney isn't in the vicinity.

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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 3:56pm
It sounds like you could be developing feelings for this guy. My opinion is to just take things slow. The best relationships start out as friendships. Its hard not to stress about where things are going but try not to think about it and just enjoy every day. keep us posted! Good luck!
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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 4:13pm

" know- not big things, but the fact that this is turning into a real relationship is kind of freaking me out because I'm really just waiting for the other shoe to drop. When's he going to decide that he doesn't care anymore? Or when is he going to do something that I just can't live with? It's really hard for me to make myself vulnerable again. I know it's hard for him too. Maybe that's what is making this work."

I think it's totally normal to freak out a bit at this stage. You have more at stake when you actually start to care and, if you have been hurt in the past (and we all have, haven't we?), that can make it even worse.

The best thing you can do, as hard as it might be, is to just enjoy it. When you start to have those freak-out and when-will-the-shoe-drop thoughts, step back. Center yourself and say, "the shoe hasn't dropped yet and I'm just going to enjoy this" - then give him a big hug. :) Eventually, you will make it through this scary phase -- and the ones after that are SO MUCH easier.

Good luck, and I am really happy to hear that you truly like this guy. :) That's so great.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Sat, 12-02-2006 - 12:32am

I'm having a moment.

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Sat, 12-02-2006 - 2:06pm

He went hunting with just him and his dog.

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Sat, 12-02-2006 - 3:36pm
You sound just like me!! I'm always waiting for the "other shoe to drop"! We've been going out 8 months and in the beginning I wasn't even sure about going out with him. I just said yes because this really nice co-worker set it up. When I had first heard he wanted to go out with my I was like "no way", but I didn't want to say no to this nice lady. LOL. Just so weird how it all happened and I just kind of went through the whole experience for the first month or so expecting him to stop calling me after each date. A little part of me still expects that, but so far it hasn't happened. He was the first one to use the "L" word and is always offering me the next step in the relationship. I have never once had to ask where it's going. Things just happened. Who knows what will happen in the coming months, but it's been a good trip.
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Sat, 12-02-2006 - 4:54pm

I'm glad you understand.

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