Large breasted women are easy?

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Registered: 09-28-2005
Large breasted women are easy?
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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 10:01am
Why, why, why do people assume that because you have large breasts that you are easy? I'm just about sick of it. I have had to deal with this issue since I was 12 years old and it's not getting any better. I feel like I'm nothing but a set of boobs and that's what people associate me with. I'm tired of hearing me described as "You know, Tammy the blonde with the big boobs". Guys don't even look at my face when they talk to me, they talk to my breasts. I don't even flaunt them or anything. I am always modest in my dress, but I face this issue all the time. Anybody else have this problem?

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 11:07am

tammarella, I completely understand where you are coming from. I had breasts by age 8, and was wearing a bra by age 9. I was horrified, and I was teased in junior high school because I had the curves in junior high that grown women would have killed for. I think that is one of the reasons I struggle with my weight now because I can "hide" my body under the extra weight. Alright I digressed a little so back to the subject of large breasts. Yep, I also get upset when guy's talk to my chest. Just 2 weeks ago I was at a bar/restaurant with a group of friends and there was a guy who kept "venting" to me about his psycho friends at the the table next to us. He came across as a funny, friendly guy. Right before we left I was standing up by our table, and he had sat down at our table and he and I were talking. As we were talking I noticed that his eyes never left my breasts. I was so disgusted because here I had thought he was a cool guy, but all he could do was look at my chest. I am not so naive that I think that guy's aren't going to look, but good god don't let me see you looking!!! I even asked a guy once who kept staring at my breasts what he expected to happen - did he think they were going to jump out and say hi?!?! He seemed a little surprised that I asked.

I admit that I do wear tops which "flatter" my breasts as opposed to hiding my breasts because I have seen too many women who look larger then they are because they wear oversized shirts to hide their breasts. I know I have large breasts, and everyone else can see that I have large breasts, so I figure I will accentuate the positive without giving away the farm so to speak. I have even had men question me as to whether or not my "girls" are real. A friend's boyfriend even tried to dare me into proving they are real because he told me he didn't think they were real. My friend's boyfriend didn't know me very well and I told him that yes, they are real, but you will just have to take my word for it. When he pressed further I told him listen, the only way you will ever see my breasts is if I sleep with you, and since that will never happen I guess you will just have to take my word for it that they are real and fabulous!!

So, yes, I completely understand what you are going through. I do not know how old you are but I am 31 years old so I have a good sense of humor about my breasts. However, I still do get irritated when a guy stares at them. Do you ever get dirty looks from other women? I do. I was out with my brother and his wife and a group of friends, and I got up to use the restroom and I passed a woman who glanced at my chest and then gave me the dirtiest look. It made me wonder if maybe the woman thought they were fake. Unfortunately in this day and age when everyone seems to be getting implants I am sure when another woman sees a large breasted woman she automatically assumes implants, and I am not even a size 5 or 6. I am a size 14/16, so if I were going to get plastic surgery I would get lipsuction before I got implants.

As a side note to anyone who might read this, yes, I get annoyed with the way people stare, and yes, I get annoyed when I cannot wear a specific top because of my chest size, but I do not have back problems, and I do not currently intend to have a breast reduction done.

Alright this ended up being a lot longer then I expected so I had better end it!

Leigh

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Registered: 09-28-2005
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 3:34pm
I also wear shirts that are flattering (fitted) so that I don't appear heavy (I'm a size 10), but never anything trashy or tight. I don't even like to show cleavage. I'm 41, so I've been dealing with this for a long time. I'm just tired of it because people sometimes do not take me seriously because they can't see past the boobs. Their first assumption is that I'm a blonde haired, big boobed bubblehead. Once I was talking to a guy who was staring at my chest the whole time we were talking and I said "They won't answer you back". He got so flustered. Yeah I could get a reduction, but why risk surgery. If I could just make people realize that large breasted women can be smart and have good morals. What makes guys think that a large breasted woman is easy or is that just wishful thinking on their part? LOL.
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Registered: 12-05-2005
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 5:53pm

I work in technical support (think 95% are male, and mostly 'geeks'). I'm one of the senior reps and I've dealt with just about any issue you can think of with dsl, so I get asked a lot of questions. Rather, my chest gets asked a lot of questions. I'm small, 5' 4", size 5, my girls are about a C/D depending on the bra style/fit. My friend S notices the others ogle my chest all the time. It drives him nuts. I don't notice it, probably because I'm used to it and tune it out.

I'd like to know what the facination is with them anyway :)

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 7:16pm

I honestly haven't noticed, and I've had them since the third grade.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 4:11am

tammarella,

>What makes guys think that a large breasted woman
>is easy or is that just wishful thinking on their part? LOL.

I think the answer is scientific and hinges on evolution and the “good gene hypothesis”.

http://www.economist.com/science/displayStory.cfm?story_id=2647109

It’s the same process that makes women swoon when they see a tall dark Adonis!

“So far, so good. But Miller goes far beyond this, ultimately proposing that almost every conceivable human characteristic is a fitness indicator, or at least a result of mate choice. A lot of this is quite ingenious stuff. Why do human females have prominent breasts? Not, apparently, as direct sex attractants. No, it turns out that symmetry of bodily structure is a fitness indicator, and symmetry is more easily detectable among large breasts than small ones.”

http://www.nytimes.com/books/00/06/11/reviews/000611.11tattert.html

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 8:16am
Men are pigs..point blank.Don`t let yourself get upset by them,they have no brains...well they do,but it is in the wrong area.LOL.Any guy that harassed me in any way got slapped or punched point blank,I don`t recommend it but it did knock it off...I feel your pain though.
If surgery is possible then go for it..my insurance won`t cover it basturds....BUT like i said,men are jerks,and if you get harassed,be sure to report it or do whatever you have to do..if they did not have such strict policies at my job I think men would NOT be as nice.
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Registered: 01-04-2006
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 8:22am
I really think sometimes men should not be allowed on the boards...you act all innocent with guy point of view...but really,you are one of the ones i try to keep away from
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Registered: 09-28-2005
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 9:52am
I've even had a complete stranger ask me if my back was okay and I asked the guy "Yeah, why?" and his reply was "You've got quite a load to carry around there". WTF? I couldn't believe it. I should have decked him right there, but instead I said "You know, you have a lot of nerve". I've been called bongo boobs, treasure chest, titty Tammy, just about everything you can think of. I am not easy, nor do I ever present myself in that way, so I'm not asking for this kind of disrespect. I am a modest person that has always been embarrassed about the size of my breasts, so I have always tried to hide them and make them appear smaller. With age, I've become a little more comfortable with them because it is more acceptable to have larger breasts these days with everyone getting implants. My insurance will cover a reduction, but why should I have to undergo surgery to make people act right? Guys do this kind of stupid stuff then they wonder why I don't want to have anything to do with them. DUH!!! Us girls don't sit there staring at a guys crotch to see if he's got a big member! As far as guys using the excuse that gawking at women and not being able to be monogamous is in their evolutionary makeup, I say BS. That's just an excuse.
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 1:10pm

Hi tammarella,

I wasn’t attempting to find an excuse for disrespectful men. I was merely trying to explain that research suggests women with large breasts will attract a larger proportion of the male population- at least 50%. ( I read one report which put that figure in the upper 60%). This means that statistically you have a much greater chance of meeting brainless male pig jerks that likes big breasts. Unfortunately evolution does not refine male conduct.

>not being able to be monogamous is in
>their evolutionary makeup, I say BS

I agree. As a species we have survived because we have high quality genes not a high reproductive rate. This seems to be a rule of nature. ie/ Organisms with low quality genes (like bacteria and brainless men) need high populations and rapid reproduction to survive and organisms with high quality genes seem to have smaller populations and longer reproductive cycles.

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Registered: 09-28-2005
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 1:33pm
Okay Hal, sorry. Normally I agree with everything you offer up and it is nice to have a guys point of view. I don't want to appear mean and run you off because you have been kind enough to let us girls know how the typical man thinks. My apologies.

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