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| Fri, 05-04-2007 - 4:03am |
Hi everyone,
I am a 20 year old college student with an irritating problem.
I have had boyfriends for the past 5 years of my life. Because I am a pretty girl, I have never really had to work for these relationships. I have been lucky enough for these boys to immediately show interest and essentially guide the relationship.
However, my last relationship ended a few months ago and I am now single…for the first time since I was 15 years old. Being new to the single/dating scene, I have attempted to meet new guys and have fun. Unfortunately, I recently realized that I am VERY shy!! Because I have had boyfriends for so long, I suppose I never developed the necessary dating skills.
When meeting new people, I am very proper and cordial. I am frequently at a loss for words (or use inappropriately large words when speaking to “cool” frat guys, lol) and remain very uptight throughout the entire conversation. I am constantly thinking about how I look and what I say. In my college social scene, I feel that men strongly favor my friends with outgoing, flirtatious personalities.. regardless of physical appearance.
I have been told that I seem very wholesome and proper in appearance and demeanor. Although I do like myself and am proud of my intelligence and morals, I would like to be somewhat more relaxed and appealing. I feel that this is the time in my life that I should be relaxed and having fun. I wish I were able to do so.
If anyone has experienced something similar/ has any advice.. I would greatly appreciate it!

I have a tendency to use "big words" sometimes, too, and sometimes I have to remind myself that not everyone knows what they mean, so when I'm in a social setting, I try to "know my audience" and, if necessary, remind myself to "keep it simple."
Edited 5/4/2007 2:00 pm ET by cfk_3