Law of Attraction

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Law of Attraction
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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 9:53pm
Is any one familiar with the law of attraction or "The Secret"? The theory, in summary, says that the universe manifests whatever you think of. It sounds charlatan but -- oh well, it is not the first time that I am taking a leap in faith. I think that I am interested in this stuff because I have been making an effort to be more optimistic. What is your experience or opinion on the law of attraction?

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Registered: 01-26-2006
In reply to: akt226
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:15pm

>>Probably many of you do not give a darn about the market (except when you look at your retirement accounts), or think that I sound grandiose -- No big deal! I am feeling giddy right now because it is such a big part of my life. I will keep you guys updated.

Yeah, I used the relationship example because I really don't have much of a clue. I'm an art girl. :) It sounds exciting though, I definitely respect what you do...good luck!

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Registered: 09-05-2003
In reply to: akt226
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:14pm

I have had the same experiences as most of you. Believe in/get inspired by The Secret. Try it for an hour or a day, give up in frustration. Here's what I think about applying it to romance: Your best chances of finding someone will come from a combination of opportunity (doing a dating website, going places where single men/people are, telling all your friends you're looking, etc) AND having a positive attitude and expecting what you want to come into your life. Both things can be very exhausting and you'll want to give up, but I truly believe if you want something, you can't stop working towards it. It is, however, good to look at your current approach and see if you want to "change gears" if something continues to not bring you the results you want.

I'm struggling with this same issue, but I think the answer is taking what you've learned from these books and DVDs, from your life, from your friends' lives, and from wherever, and making your OWN rules about what works. But I do think you have to be proactive and not just assume fate will take care of everything.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: akt226
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:55pm

I have used the Law of Attraction my whole life and it works very well for me. I didn't realize any of it UNTIL I saw the Secret. I found my DH by using the Law of Attraction. I had no problems meeting men - but they were never "marriage" material. I didn't want marriage until I was 29...so it made sense I had been attracting those kinds of guys. So I sat down and wrote a "list" of attributes that make a guy marriage material to me. After I wrote the list, I put it away and never looked at it again. I was sure he was on his way - sooner or later. I would often think things like, "my husband and I will go there together - so I'll wait for that particular vacation spot." 4 yrs later, my soon to be DH was moving in and a piece of paper fluttered out of one of my books. He picked up and was astonished to read directions from my house to his. We looked on the back of the paper, and there was my list. How do I know he's the guy from the list? I added VERY unique identifiers just so I'd KNOW...like "has goofy voices", "prefers turkey to ham for holidays", etc. He matched every one of them. (I did make a mistake and wrote "likes hockey" instead of "likes the Canucks", LOL) The directions were a result of a photo shoot I went to across the street from his house...we also worked together once...went to similar concerts, sporting events, etc. We "recognized" each other but hadn't actually met.

Now, whenever I do stuff like this, I get this excited feeling in the pit of my stomach. I remember in the Secret they emphasized that you have to FEEL it - not just think it. If I don't FEEL that excitement, then I know something is wrong and I probably won't work. For instance, my DH & I wanted to start a business. We sat down and tried to picture the successful business. I didn't get that feeling. I thought about it for a week, did some research and then made some alterations to our business plan - and THEN I could see it successful and I got the "buzz/feeling". We've been in business 3 yrs and its going great. It wasn't all roses and peaches tho - it took hard work and it was sometimes stressful being a business partner w/your DH.

I have probably about 30+ such stories from my own experience. I know a woman who is 57 who is a master at this. No, she isn't the richest person out there - but is is not a very materialistic person. The more you do it, the more success you have - the easier it becomes. I told my mother about this and she said my grandmother used to explain it to her & her siblings all the time. So I agree its not new...it had been kind of lost, my mother never mentioned it to me before!

The other thing I would add is that the law of attraction doesn't state "its your fault". That is too simplistic. But it does say that if you project negative feelings and thoughts, then when it collides with someone who has matching negative feelings & thoughts to that end - then bad things will happen. For instance, I'm feeling very angry and upset about something and I want to hurt something. I come across someone who is projecting fear and thoughts about being hurt...it creates a collision course.

We are more responsible for our thoughts and actions that we'd like to think. Here is another practical example: if you have a dinner party and someone who is in a VERY bad mood walks into the room - everyone can feel it. You just KNOW w/o any speaking or even body language that this person is mad/angry/sad/etc. Its that subtle "vibe" that you are working on programming yourself. Even if you are angry/sad/mad, you can change that vibe by using the techniques learned in books about law of attraction.

Good luck and it sounds easy but its not. After 3 yrs of trying my DH can't really do it yet either. But then I don't think he really and truly believes it...so he's kind of just going through the motions.

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